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writes:hi so im turning 16 in april and my bf turned 19 a week ago. we have been together 3 months but ive known him since i was very young, about 4. we had sex for the first time the other night, not my first time ever. i had sex with my ex bf 3 times. so he was my 4th time ever having sex. i was expecting it to be slow and gentle because outside of the bedroom he is timid and loving but he was so aggressive. he kept pulling on my hair and biting me and just doing it way too hard that i cried :( i told him to stop, but i only whispered it and he was on top so i couldnt physically get him off of me... he just said "wait. wait. wait." and finished. I'm on birth control so he came inside me. after he just lay there and hugged and kissed me and i was shaking and still crying until we fell asleep. i feel like he raped me.... but he's my boyfriend and i love himm.... so can it be considered rape? please help. thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2010): You told him to stop and he said wait? Yes that can be counted as rape, but in these circumstances it's not a severe case. It was more like a misunderstanding. Somewhere he got it into his head that he HAS to pump it hard and fast and not care at all about the woman's feelings. I suggest a bitch slap and straighten him up or dump him. He better be sorry for how he treated you and never do that to you ever again or he can buy a plastic doll that wont care how he humps her.
I feel sorry for you that must have been awful. You didn't speak up loud enough. I had a guy trying to do that to me once, although his penis was so small it didn't hurt at all. He pounced me like a bunny or something, it was insane and didnt feel good at all, so I told him to slow it down or get off, and he slowed down. What happened though was that he lost his erection. So maybe it's something that your boyfriend is embarrassed about, that he will loose erection if he doesnt do it hard and fast. Teach him to better way and he will just have to learn how to do it slow and make you feel good. Maybe he needs to adjust his jerking off moves to go slower so he gets used to it.
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reader, Ich_liebe_dich  +, writes (16 February 2010):
 Save your self honey before its too late... your young, this love what you feel right now, you can still manage to hold it back, you seems pretty smart person. you will find better than he is and you deserve somebody who is not aggressive. dump him and find a nice one for you.. Good luck
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (16 February 2010):
Dump him now. You did tell him to stop, but he would argue that he didn't hear it, so it would be very hard to prove. But clearly he was aggressive, and no matter how much you love him, you are now in danger and for your own safety you must get away from him now.
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