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writes:A man asked me out that I met at a party. We met up for drinks and it appeared to go smoothly. he invited me out for a fancy dinner a few days later. I accepted. I am 48 and he is 50. The evenign started out soo good until the subject of religion was broached. He said he wanted to help and fix me. I said I really am doing ok. I was not sure what he meant. I assumed he was trying to be a night in shining armor. Later, he told me a friend turned him onto god and god has made his life so good.. He asked me my religious beliefs and I said I was raised catcholic , however, I do not have a strong religious conviction. He asked me if I beleived in god and I said I was not sure and question it.. Well after, my comment he said how do you think you will meet someone if you do not believe in god?? Are you looking for an atheist? At that point the evening was akward..However, he did ask me out again. Fast forward a few days , I said you are a very nice guy, but I feel how strongly you felt when we discussed religion, maybe we should chalk it up to us being good people and leave it at that...He asked to see me again.I do not know what to do??
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reader, hammyj  +, writes (31 January 2011):
Run away now. If I that was me and and someone said "how do you think you will ever meet someone if you do not believe in God?", I would have to start walking away very fast for fear that I would punch them in the face.
What an arrogant d**K!
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reader, SweetSmoochy +, writes (30 January 2011):
 Although he's just trying to share something that brings him happiness with you, if he's forcing it on you, you need to get away. Tell him, straight out, that you judt want to be friends, and nothing more. Don't sugar coat it or put it gently. He obviously isn't getting it that way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2011): Hate to say it, but I don't see a future in this.I'm not trying to knock his belief, but his suspicions that he can "fix" you are supremely arrogant. I'm suspicious he will judge you at some point for failing to live up to his own personal standards.I'm met this sort of guy before. Don't date him, unless you want his "Lord" to be involved in every personal aspect and private moment of the relationship. Three's a crowd.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2011): I think you would get your ears bashed.....talking about religion is not too good....he sounds nice enough but i think the nature of your relationship would be ''sinner that needs saving'' and he's the one to do it....do it yourself and save your ears!!!:)
spunky monkey.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2011): It's been my experience that people that say they have found God, or become "born again" will believe that others should think like them. However most of the time, these people believe like this only because they have been told to believe that. Not because its actually true. I would find it very offensive if someone would say that I "needed to be fixed". This relationship has already started off on the wrong foot, so to speak, and I don't see any kind of future in it.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (30 January 2011):
 I think you should decline. He sounds like he wants to preach to you, not date you or respect you, but make you his minion. Leave him to find an equally dedicated person to be with.
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reader, Liebes Kummer +, writes (30 January 2011):
It has been said that most of the ills in the world today has religoin as its source.
I am a christian but this is my motto; live and let live.
No matter how nice a person is, what one should not do is try to shove ones religion down the throat of someone else.
I have always been disillusioned by folks who have the tendency to force their religious beliefs on others.
I mean, it is one thing to be passionate about what one believes in, but it is completelty different to be fanatical or judgmental.
I am sorry but, if i were you, i would not hold my breath about this guy changing.
I think he is better off dating someone with similar religious convictions.
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reader, ShiShisAdvice +, writes (30 January 2011):
 You are right, remain good friends, but he is not the partner you are looking for at this time. He is on a "mission", probably issues of guilt, and now wants to "fix the world" and he is starting with YOU.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2011): This is the OP. I was raised Catholic and enjoy church from time to time. Church is so peaceful and there is so much to learn. However, I felt he was trying to convert me the first night I met him. He said over and over I am going to help you. I respnded , are you trying to sign me up for a seminar or something. I agree, it got off to a bad start!!\
Thanks for the posts~~
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2011): People don't have to have the same beliefs, but they need to respect each others, whatever they are. From what you have said this guy doesn't sound like he is going to be able to do so, based on that, I think your first decision to leave it at that, is the right one for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2011): You need to get away from him. Even if he is nice now, he could become overbearing/controlling and try to force it on you.
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