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writes:I know for a fact that I am quite attractive and sexy. I love dressing up and showing myself off. I love wearing sexy lingerie and am not afraid to go all-out and adventurous in the bedroom (and OUTSIDE the bedroom). I'm not afraid to put on a wee bit of a show for my boyfriend on webcam or send some sexy pictures when we're not together. But my boyfriend just does not seem that interested anymore! It's so frustrating because there are so many other guys who would die to be with me, and sometimes I have a hard time just getting him to have sex with me, and sometimes when he does, I almost feel like its a favor for me! We used to do it six or seven times an evening and he'd still be hungry for more. Now, although he still calls me beautiful and sexy and compliments me, when I try and do cheeky things like give him head while he's driving, or come and sit on his lap and give him a good squeeze in the crotch-area, he's never interested, he'll just smile, shake his head and brush me off, like he's completely immune. It's like his sexual attraction to me has just suddenly turned OFF, and it's starting to affect my confidence.Does this mean our relationship is doomed? I've tried talking to him but he never opens up. WHY DOES MY BOYFRIEND NOT WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH ME?
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reader, Presto  +, writes (13 September 2010):
 Perhaps you are coming on very strong for him. He wants to be the dominate member of the relationship but isn't because you're so dominate in the bedroom. Maybe instead of the lingerie and grabbing the croch approach, invite him to dinner and over candle lit dinner at your place or at a restaurant talk to him in a less forboding environment, he may open up to you.
If he doesn't open up after that, then it's probably time to move on.
A second thought on this, he may be playing hard to get, he wants to you clamor over him. Some guys aren't used to the overbearing sexual prowess of a woman. Don't scare him away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe relationship is good, if not quiet, but I get the feeling he isn't opening up to me about something. When I push for answers it just makes him angry and he accuses me of not trusting him. We had a very rocky starts to our relationship and I'm beginning to think it's haunting him.
Thanks for the replies, guys.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2010): Do you guys get along otherwise? How is the relationship besides sex?
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reader, LiveAnnLearn  +, writes (12 September 2010):
 Maybe he's holding a grudge of some kind? I can imagine it would turn me off from a guy I'm dating no matter how attractive he is. Other things I can think of are: he's having some kind of problems, maybe even a health condition, that's affecting him generally and lowering his sex drive. Apparently there's SOMETHING changed either about him alone or your entire relationship. Whatever it is, keep trying to talk to him and don't let it get to your confidence... Hope he opens up soon.
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