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writes:I have been in a relationship for almost two and a half years. I am with a guy who truly loves me and will do anything for me. But I am going for an accounting degree and he does not even have a high school diploma. I just feel like I should deserve better but I'm torn because he truly is a good guy? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you everyone. I just realized how selfish I am being and that a great guy is rare and I should stop being so childish.
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reader, Mrs. Mom +, writes (13 March 2009):
 Oh, my! I wouldn't reject him just because of his education if he has qualities that you admire and if you enjoy spending time with him! He may be the yin to your yang, after all. That is, you may be dissimilar in a way that is complementary, rather than being in conflict.
The thing I would be cautious about is if you have very different values about important things like hard work, getting ahead, making money, having a family, how children should be raised, etc. Slowly explore these topics with him, but don't reject him just because he doesn't have a college degree!
Oh, and I disagree with those who counseled you to get together and then give him a "nudge." Don't ever get together with somebody with plans in mind to change them. That's a recipe for disaster.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2009): Female anonymous- superb answer- completely agree! -guitarist too!
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reader, kaylagal +, writes (13 March 2009):
 Some guys are not ambitous and they need a little nudge. Talk to him, motivate him and work with him. Nice guys are hard to come by so don't let one go. Sounds like both of you are still young and it's not too late for him.
Good luck.
K.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2009): Go for your accountancy degree.....HE DESERVES BETTER.via con dios.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes I do. I think I am just worried about being one guy forever?
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reader, Guitarist  +, writes (13 March 2009):
 If you LOVE him, nothing else should matter. so do YOU love HIM?
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (12 March 2009):
 It all depends on what he wants to do with his life. Does he work? If so, is he a hard worker?
Some people just aren't cut out for college, but that doesn't make them any less deserving of your time and affection. If he pulls his own weight and tries to get ahead in his job, and is a good person, then I would stay.
If he is lazy though, and sits around eating chips all day watching the boob-tube, and you truly have outgrown him, then it is time to move on.
It is hard at times for white collar and blue collar to get along and find ways to live together, but it can be done as long as you recognize that what he is lacking in education, he could be making up for in hard work and ethics.
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