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writes:Hi guys, I need some help... and I dont know what to do. I did something really bad and I'm ashamed. Well me and my buddy Adam are like two peas in a pod... we're the best of friends we're really close and nothing could tear us apart, we get along so well and do everything together.. we've a really good male bond. We're so close that people joke around that we're gay, but that's not the issue.Adam has a girlfriend and they are really in love with each other and besides me, she makes the other half of him happy but yesterday Adam's gf Emily came on to me and started making out with me... I didn't want to but I couldn't resist the temptation... we ended up having sex!!!I feel like shit, I can't believe I did that to Adam, he would never do that to me. We're like brothers, family. He would never believe ME, out of all people would do something like this to him...Now I'm really hurt and feel really guilty for what I did even though it wasn't all my fault. I dont know what to do, should I tell Adam about what I did????? cause I can't take lying to his face like this, we have the utmost respect for each other, but I broke that. What should I do???? please??
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reader, Mrs. Mom +, writes (13 March 2009):
 I agree that you should tell him and be prepared for the consequences. If he's angry with you, don't argue with him or make excuses for yourself. Your friendship might not survive the truth, but it certainly won't survive the lie.
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reader, kaylagal +, writes (13 March 2009):
 It's going to hurt him but you have to tell him. It's the right thing to do plus his girlfriend sound shady and she might tell someone and it will end up getting back to him. Better you tell him than for him to hear from someone else. In time, I think he will believe you.
Sorry, and good luck.
K.
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reader, lgonzal2 +, writes (12 March 2009):
 You need to definitley tell your friend. Especially because his "GF" is not good for him if she is already cheating on him with you she probably gets around with anyone. If you do not tell him and he finds out, which people usually do he will be even more pissed. You need to discuss it and if he does not accept your apologies and does not want to be you friend he will at least have respect for you telling him the truth.
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (12 March 2009):
 Yes, you need to tell him.
It will suck, I'm not going to lie, but if you give him a fair chance to hear the truth from you, it will go much better than if he hears it through the rumor mill at school.
You need to tell him before he hears it from someone else. Don't deny him the feelings he may have about this. If you can be honest and apologetic to him, then you stand a much better chance of saving your friendship in the end.
Also, he needs to know what this girl is really like. I despise the saying, but this is kind of a case of "Bros before hoes". Odds are she has cheated on him before, or will, and next time it might not be with someone like you. She could contract and STD and pass it to him.
Man up, it's the quickest way to start earning his respect back, I promise.
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reader, MinionServatis +, writes (12 March 2009):
 Well, you have to realize that you are a guy, ok, now that you do, ok like any other guy, you are horny, I mean thats just in our nature we will always be horny, and we take every chance we get to have sex, why because when we get turned on, it is hard to turn it back off, so we just go at it. Now my point is that, your just like any other man, and you are going at it, but the thing is, the girl, she knows that she has a boyfriend, and of course you know that to, so that complicates things, but yeah, if you came on to her first, then that is bad, if she came on to you, then you have the advantage because she got you horny, she knew what she was doing, you on the other hand, did not, once you get started its like we are blinded and we just have to keep going, basically our penis is controlling us you have to finish, Sorry if I sound like an asshole, but that there is the reality of it. I am not telling you to tell him, because i don't want to destroy something, so I hope this helped.
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