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writes:my boyfriend of 8 yrs plays darts and his friends wife calls him when her husbands out of town to take her to the bar; she too is his friend they all play darts together when her husbands home i cant stand the idea of him spending time with her when he should be with me i dont like her!! help
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reader, eddie  +, writes (5 July 2007):
 Why should he be with you? It is his night to play darts. If his male friend was home you wouldn't be complaining. So in reality, it's not the time, it's the company he's keeping. Is this a dart league and are there other people there too? I think at this point you're acting a little selfish or jealous.
What don't you like about her? What did she do to you?
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reader, LauraE  +, writes (5 July 2007):
I don't agree FoxyR at all. Until you know that your boyfriend and this woman have done something wrong, you don't want to embarass yourself by letting her know that you are jealous. If something is going on, your problem is with your man not her. Her problem is with her husband. It might well be innocent. Tellulah's advice is sound. Get out there with them and act like you like her. You will be able to tell if there is anything between them - but don't jump to conclusions just because they are friends. Try to be fair-minded about it. If your suspicions are confirmed, then speak to your boyfriend about it, not her.
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (5 July 2007):
 Hi,
Go along with him, and be friendly to the woman even if you cant stand her. Maybe if you get to know her better you could get to like her, or at tolerate the situation. Its going to be hard because you dont want to look like you are just picking a row with him.
Try this and see how it goes, and if it still seems a bit odd, then confront him and let him no how uncomfortable you feel about it. See if he makes any changes, to this. If he refuses, I would then worry, that there is something more going on, but at least give him the oportunity to sort it out first.
Good luck XX
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reader, FoxyR  +, writes (5 July 2007):
 Hi,
i thin that you should speak to her on her own, tell her that you don't want your husband playing dart with her when he should be with you.
If she has a problem well you know what you need to do.
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reader, sexi  +, writes (5 July 2007):
 Hi, You should speak to your bf and tell him that by him doing that it upsets you. I am sure that it does not want to see you hurt or upset and if he is aware that his actions make you upset, he would robably stop. If that does not work, why dont you go along with them to the bar, even if you dont drink or play darts you can just socialise with the others that are there. You need to make him aware that you are not happy with what he is doing. Communication is the way to getting what you want and being happy in your relationship.
Good Luck, let me know what has happened
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reader, dollparts +, writes (5 July 2007):
 tell him how you feel, the key to a relationship is comunication how's he suposed to know what's wrong when you wont tell him right? just talk to him nicely about and tell him how you feel.
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