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female
age
36-40,
*azed & Confused
writes:I can't handle how low my self esteem is. I always have my ups and downs. If my friends don't invite me somewhere or don't call me as soon as I call them, I freak out. I want to be content with myself, but I feel like I need to be part of a group to feel ok. I have a really close friend, but I feel like everyone I know NEEDS to LIKE me and if they don't, then I feel like there's something wrong with me. What can I do? Everyone always goes on about how pretty I am and how outgoing and content I seem with myself, but I don't believe them. I fake my happiness in order to be liked. I can't tell whether people like me or if they're just trying to be nice. I don't want to care about these things anymore! I feel completely worthless and unwanted.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (5 July 2007):
 I think you just need to understand that this feeling of yours is wrong and makes you be in constant pain. I wonder how you would handle rejection from a person you loved.
We all have value, and sometimes people won't appreciate it; or then, they will. We need to live according to our own feeling of what is right, and we need to understand that not everyone will like us the way we are. But, some people will. You can't please everyone.
You are not worthless or unwanted. You are just in great need of reassurance.
You see, here you have perfect strangers getting interest in you. Shouldn't that make you feel better?
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