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*pring2012
writes:I have been married for 13 years... we have had or share of ups and downs. He has had PE and only got medication a few months ago. He helps me orgasm by other means. a month ago he woke me up at 2.00 am and aroused me and as i started responding he turned his back on me and went back to sleep. I felt very confused and angry and poked him and said what is wrong with you? why wake me if you didn't really want it...then he responded saying I didn't seem that intrested. Yesterday he was massaging me (his way of getting me roused)but not in a way that was getting me anyware and then he lay by me resting! I asked if he was going to sleep and if he had come and he said yes...I was very upset that he didnt bother finishing what he started leaving me high and dry... i don't know what to make of this? I feel he doesn't care about me but just using me...
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reader, spring2012 +, writes (28 July 2012):
spring2012 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks all for your responses. Glow..we had a problem and took a short break and now we are back together..the first week he couldn't keep his hands off me...now it has been 3/4 weeks at least since we done it properly.
Honeypie..he seemed quite satisfied and was about to sleep, which is what upset me...
Bond Girl...I have been thinking this too...he has been verbally abusive in the past..and has a bit of a temper...the first time I asked him why he did it and he said he thought I must be still sleepy and let me be...why bother wake me up in the first place I asked? if he was being so considerate...the second time he used the same excuse saying he thought I was falling asleep but when he saw that I was upset he apologised. We have been having a difficult time after he got aggressive when I found something and i even left home for a short while and am back, so somtimes it feels like he is taking revenge...I have two boys and it is difficult to figure out what is going on at times as he keeps to himself alot...
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reader, glow  +, writes (27 July 2012):
 I have heard a sex therapist say take a break from 'sex' when things like this happen.
Get connected again with good conversation, humor, resolve issues or hurts from the past, kind of a healing time...Sex starts in the brain, and alot of times performance is affected by stress, problems, or misunderstandings between couples.
Try giving him a nice back rub without expecting anything in return. Little acts of love keep the sparks alive
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (26 July 2012):
I'm guessing he is more upset at himself then at you for not being able to finish what he started.
However, I think you need to talk to him about it.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (26 July 2012):
I wonder if the medication is having some sort of effect on him, and not totally in a good way.
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (26 July 2012):
 This is very strange behavior on his part. Have you tried talking to him about this? This is almost like abusive behavior to me. He is doing something to please you then takes it away? I would talk to him and see what he says. Could he be depressed or something?
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