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writes:hey people me and my bf , have been together almost a year and it reaally bothers me that he usally puts all his money towards weed he barely buys me surprises , like ... I dunno things that show he care like he used to on our anniveraary he used to buy me a card and now he stopped, he still shows his love and everything but i dont wanna sound like a gold fdigger but it feels really nice when we gets me stuff because it shows hes thinking about me... I dont know what to do am i being stupid ? Help please...
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reader, littlest.devil  +, writes (4 September 2010):
 you probably hear this alot but it's not about presents. think of it this way you have a boyfriend who LOVES you this boy is IN LOVE WITH YOU :D ! any guy can get money and buy a girl presents, but for a guy to love you for you, that is definetly priceless and not anything you can buy at a store. i wouldn't let the gift thing bother you. we are taught from a young age that you should buy stuff to show someone you love them. thats a complete lie. companies wants you to think that so you buy more of their product.
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reader, Supreeya  +, writes (4 September 2010):
Maybe i'm wrong but sounds like youre more disappointed that he's spending all his money on weed than anything else. Generally guys make more of an effort at the beginning of a relationship, i.e. buying you presents and surprising you.But i think the problem here is that if he has stopped making an effort all together and is not doing anyting constructive with his life other than smoking weed, then maybe this relationship is a recipe for disaster?You are not being a gold digger by expecting a card on your anniversary. Just ask yourself whether you want to be with someone who would rather give drugs priority over you?
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