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writes:Well, my boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years now. We just moved in to an apartment together in April.I've always been curvier and possibly a little overweight... but it generally stays the same. I'm a size 16, 18 on a bad day, in jeans so it's not that bad.Lately, I feel like I've been hungry constantly. (Probably because we don't have that much food in our home due to lack of money.) Anyway, I spend most of my paycheck trying to feed us. I feel like all I do is eat when my boyfriend is around. It makes me feel so guilty, fat, etc. :/ This feeling just started recently and it's not like I eat that much. Some days I only have one meal a day! :(Any thoughts, comments, help?
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (23 June 2011):
 Well how about you go on a diet and try and eat properly, then your issues with food and eating will get a bit better hence eating around other people wont seem so bad.
A US size 16 or 18 is a bit on the large side, there is nothing wrong with curves but that is probably a bit bigger than you should be in terms of a healthy weight for you. So why not try a diet and exercise plan to shed some weight, which will in turn make you feel better about yourself, hence better about eating.
If you are eating salads in front of your boyfriend you will feel far less embarrassed than say if you were eating a pizza. One meal a day is incredibly unhealthy and no wonder you are hungry all the time, so you need to sort this out. Having a healthy breakfast is not expensive - eggs are cheap, so are cereals. A simple bowl of wholegrain cereal and milk is cheap, quick and healthy. Or something like poached eggs on brown toast, again, healthy, cheap and filling.
Lunch is important too - you cant expect your body to survive off nothing all day until you have your dinner. You can make cheap and healthy sandwiches, or soups (you can make big batches of them cheaply and then put them in the fridge for your lunch later in the week).
As for dinner - if you have eaten 2 meals already during the day then you wont be quite as hungry in the evening, so you wont feel like you are pigging out on a massive meal because it is the first thing you have eaten that day.
Try and sort out your eating habits and I'm sure the guilt and embarassment will go away, you just need to learn to spread your eating throughout the day so when you come to eating with your boyfriend, you wont feel like you are being greedy or fat.
Out of interest, has your boyfriend said anything about your weight? Your embarassment seems to be centered around your weight, you said that you feel fat when you eat in front of him - has he made you feel this way or is this coming from yourself? Do you feel overweight? Do you actually want to lose weight?
I think if you actually lost some weight and ate regular meals these feelings would go away - although I do have a slight concern that these feelings around food could manifest itself as something worse like an eating disorder if you are not careful - anorexics hate to be seen eating and feel guilt when they eat, so you need to be very careful to take control of this now before it turns into something potentially serious.
If you need any diet tips or meal ideas feel free to respond, I am dieting myself on Weight Watchers and its going well, plus I have lost nearly 2 stone (28lbs) in the past so I know how to do it!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, SeriouslyStephanie +, writes (23 June 2011):
 Hi there. I think it is because you are spending all your wages on food for the house that you feel like all you do i eat. Your boyfriend obviously loves you or he wouldn't of been with you for 2 years and live with you, so I wouldn't be embarrassed about eating in front of him. Maybe your a bit depressed about not having any spare cash and you are mistaking these feelings for feelings of guilt.
One meal a day is NOT healthy, you should be having 3 meals a day. Try writing up a healthy meal plan together with your boyfriend in order to write a shopping list based on those ingredients. This way you are approaching your apparent issues with food together with your boyfriend, unbeknown to him!!! :)
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