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writes:Dear Cupid,I have been seeing a guy now for about a month, I say seeing, its more sleeping together occasionally and friendship.At the beginning he wanted me around a lot, now he brushes me off often and I get to see him once, maybe twice a week at the most. Its starting to get to the point where I want a relationship out of it, but although he says thats what hes interested in his actions dont show this.A few days ago I went out with some friends and saw him with a group of mutual friends in a club. I waved but he blanked me, so instead of making a fool of myself by going over and speaking to him and him ignoring me I walked off and left.I feel cheated and used. He says its because emotions get in the way of things and he doesn't want to rush it, but i cant help thinking that Im being taken advantage of, what should I do?Anon Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2008): Stay away from him. He's just using you for when "HE" wants you. If he ignored you and brushed you off, FORGET HIM. Move on with yourself, find someone who will respect you and not ignore you when he's with friends. Trust me, you'll be better off.
Good luck hun and remember Men are b*stards.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2007): Ditch him...if he isnt going to acknowledge you then dont acknowledge him...you deserve better then that!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionaddressed the situation with the man in question. Who responded by telling me i just looked for confrontation, he didnt care about my feelings, i shouldnt have got emotional about it, then followed on when i said that wasnt fair to say leave me alone then (in less than nice terms).
Think the using point is solidly proven.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2007): Hi! I agree with all the other Aunts. You so deserve better! Don't settle for this kind of rubbish. Just ignore the idiot in future. I talk from experience. I met someone like this. He was all over me like a rash. He got my phone number but he only had a mobile number, which he couldn't remember!? He phoned and arranged a date, the night felt strained, we didn't seem to have anything in common, all he really wanted was the sex. He didn't phone me. I felt rubbish. Then i was out with a friend and again he was all over me like a rash when he discovered that he could come back to my house. This spread over 6 weeks. He still didn't phone me. Next time my friend and i went out he was there. Asked if he could come back to mine, i said no, he was gone! That night i cried my eyes out, why, i don't know, he was a piece of cr*p! The next time we went out he came over again, i told him to F*** off! The best two words i could of ever said to him. He did this to a friend of mine. I felt a better person afterwards BUT never cheapen yourself to or for a man!
Move on, never look back, all of this is good experience. You will meet someone who you so deserve and will love you for you, I did.
Take care
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys, did think this and have been told but your words have made things more clear. I havent done anything about it yet as i dont know where to start, but at least im starting to get to grips with how i feel.
Thanks again
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reader, Steve169 +, writes (1 February 2007):
 He's just using you for sex! Getting involved in a relationship after a month is not moving too fast, normally the relationship develops before and with sex. You gave him sex and just became a convience, find someone who cares about you instead of your body
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reader, AskEve +, writes (1 February 2007):
 He IS using you love. You're nothing more than a "convenience" to him to be used when he feels like it. He has absolutely no respect for you or he would never have ignored you when you waved over (unless of course he didn't see you which I don't think is the case here).
He wants the sex but not the commitment. He wants what I term a "f*** buddy". Respect yourself more don't let him use you like this. Tell him to get lost and find someone who will love you the way you deserve to be loved.
Eve
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reader, Millyella  +, writes (1 February 2007):
 Yes, i agree. This guy isn't interested in forming a relationship with you. The situation has suited him up until now, with him calling the shots. Now that you want more from him, he is withdrawing.
Find someone who actually wants to have a relationship with you. You are worth more than the way this guy is treating you.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (1 February 2007):
 I don't think he's that into you to be honest. To ignore you in public mustve hurt your feelings and saying hello to someone has no impact on his emotions. Sorry to be harsh about him but you deserve SO much better.
CD
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