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writes: i fancy this girl. we dont know each other. we only met once before properly where we had a good chat and got on well with each other! otherwise at school i just say hi. how can i ask her out? when? shall i get her number? but i cant phone her? because it will make it look obvious i fancy her! and i'm not sure she even thought about me yet! i'm 16 she's 14. please please help i desperate to talk to her over the phone etc. or ask her out! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2006): hi!
I totally agree with every1. u should play the long game. if u ask her out now when she doesnt reli no u then shes gonna say no. but get things movin!!! start by makin convo. im mean if ur older ur not gonna look stupid if u no each other. but be careful!!! then in a while, when it feels right go for it and trust me u will no when that is... u might even realise that shes a better mate than gf!!
good luck xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2006): i would say that you should try to get to know her a bit more before you ask her. find out more about her, like her interests or her hobbies see if you share any of the same hobbies. Then pick something that she likes that you can both do and do it with for example if she likes sports you could have a game of tennis with her and this will give you even more time to tslk then you could ask her because then you can ask her out.
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reader, Jenny Wren +, writes (25 October 2006):
 Like jack23 says, your best bet is to try to find (or manufacture) a shared interest. See if she does any after school activities that you could join in (eg; drama, archery, chess, voluntary work..).
I have sometimes found that I can start a conversation with someone by asking them for help (eg;"when is the next bus?", "Do you know where the history books are?"), even if I already know the answer. Another strategy is to have something with you that can be a talking point (almost anything will do) and ask her something to do with it (eg; "I'm reading this chapter for homework - do you have Mr Smith for English?). If you have an unusual object with you, she may even ask you about it first (just keep it inoffensive - a model of a seagull is interesting; a dead seagull is offputting..). I assume that you're already hanging out in the same places that she is, so just try to look friendly and approachable, and smile if she looks at you, and you should soon discover if she is interested.
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reader, jack23 +, writes (25 October 2006):
 Ok mate, I would suggest getting to know a bit more about her first. You only say hi because you have no reason to converse on any subject, you need to get a subject.
Find out what shes into and what she enjoys, the research it so that you know what you are talking about, then make an excuse to talk to her about it. Doesnt matter if its just to ask an opinion. If its something shes interested in the she will have plenty to say and that will make for good conversation.
The best subject is one that you can share with her. Like if she into running, painting, reading or something simular, it would be very easy for you to suggest do something together and spend more time talking. Take it from there and see how things go.
Good luck mate :)
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