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writes:Me and my girlfriend of 3 years went to a party together. She usually doesn't wear stuff that shows off her body cause she thinks its slutty (she only wears clothes that sre 3 sizes too big or borrows my clothes). Anyway I somehow get her to a tube top to the party. She didn't really want to but deiced to do it for me. Well when we got to the party. Long story short My very (very) drunk friends thought it would be funny to pull down her tube top in front of everyone.To matters worse for her she wasn't wearing a bra again she did it for me. They wreck her shirt by breaking the elastic so she couldn't pull it back up. I didn't cover her up cause I was laughing with my friends. Anyway I gave her my hoodie after I got her out of the bathroom (where she hiding out). I took her home (we're living together) she started yelling at me cause made her look stupid in front of everyone thats when we had a really bad fight, She made me sleep alone that night. Now shes all piss off at me and won't talk to me/ Any ideas?
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reader, That Fragile Capricorn  +, writes (24 June 2009):
 Honestly, drunk or not, she's your girlfriend. You need to protect and defend her. When your "buddies" do that kind of thing, you have to stand up for her. Let her know that you care for her and her beliefs. You should just let her chill for awhile and pretty much do whatever she tells you too because you're really in the dog house. You laughing along really didn't help, really. I mean, she's wearing clothes she probably swore she'd never wear just for you so you can be proud that you have this hot gf. You're gonna need to do some major sucking up, I'm talking flowers, nice dinners, listening to her problems, but her clothes she likes, etc. But most important, APOLOGIZE. Let her know that you really messed up and you really regret it. If that's how you feel. This is just my opinion. Let her know how important she is to you. Put yourself in her position. You'll think of something..
good luck.
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reader, ladydela +, writes (23 June 2009):
 well first of all you guys need to talk it out before things makes matters worse and when you do choose your words carefully because she is mad at you and will be listening to every word you say then tell her how you were drunk and didnt realize what happened until IT already happend then you should apologize and that does not work give her a couple of days to steam off and try to talk trust me if she loves you she will forgive you sooner or later.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2009): You actually sound like a prat.
She has a right to be angry with you!
She's your girlfriend and you should be there to protect her, not laugh at her too!
I'd be ashamed if I were you, and be prepared for major grovelling... That is if she doesn't break up with you first...
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reader, kellyxxx  +, writes (23 June 2009):
 I would leave you, you sound like a total prick and your friends are idiots! I would want nothing more to do with you!
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reader, Your friend +, writes (23 June 2009):
 Buddy, first you got her to do something she didn't want to but did because she wanted to please you, then you let your dickhead friends humiliate her in public and worse you joined them in the humiliation. Why is she with you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2009): I would have dumped you to be honest. If that was me, I expect my boyfriend to defend me not to laugh with his mates when a body part gets exposed. She trusted you to wear something diffrent which must have scared her then you didn't even stand up for her when your immature friends pulled down her top.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (23 June 2009):
 leave her be for a bit and do some major grovelling she's obviously pissed at you because you didn't stick up for her you just acted a goof with your mates thinking it was funny and she only wore that for you and you just basically stood there with your mates laughing at her and taking the mick which isn't fair on her.
you should of stuck up for her and given her your hoodie to start with or at least tell her what they had planned but you were being childish and it's obviously really upset her.
you need to apologise to her and make sure you mean it and make sure she knows you mean it!!!
good luck
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reader, baybee-x-sparkii +, writes (23 June 2009):
 okay two options.....leave her to boil and sort it out for herself or do some MAJOR grovelling (flowers chocolates the usual) and i hate to say it mate but you should be happy the way she is- she probably thinks shes not doing something right for you which is why she wore the top and got into this situation in the first place
just my opinion and all
good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2009): She is your girlfriend, it should be automatic for you to protect her as you don't want your PRECIOUS to be made fun of. You should be ashamed that you laughed with your friends too.
If i were her I'd break up with you.
Goodluck.
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reader, Flash71 +, writes (23 June 2009):
Well first up you are going to have to acknowledge that you are completely in the wrong on this one. By your own admission your g/f is very self conscious and took a big risk out of love for you by wearing these clothes in the first place. She would be feeling absolutely shattered self esteem wise as a result of this "prank" and absolutely betrayed by you laughing along with everyone else. Your mates sound like real a@#-holes to tell you the truth and if you genuinely love this girl (or respect women in general) you might need to find some new ones. At the very least you will need to take your g/f's side on this in a very public (and hopefully genuine) way as a show of support. In any case I think it's safe to assume that you have alot of ground to make up here - hope you have strong knee-caps cause your gonna be on your hands and knees with her for a while.
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