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writes:I have been dating a guy for 6 months and am head over heels in love with him, but, he is 18 years older than me, divorced, and has five children. We have very similar beliefs and out looks on life and want the same things in the future. Unlike him i have never been married and do not have any children and although these things do not bother me, for i believe i have more than enough love to give, i am scared that these thing might eventually cause us to grow appart. Am I making the right decision by following my heart or will this only end in heartbreak?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionin response to the first answer: he has only been married once and the reason they got married was because she was expecting their second child and they believed it was the right thing to do; the reason the marriage ended (he says) is because he never really loved her and they over time grew apart, they did go through different venues in attempts to repair it but it was not successful; none of his children are older than me but his oldest is only three years younger; in regards to the age thing i feel we are basically on the same page, he is very young at heart and does not act or look his age.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2009): step mom to 5 kids? can you handle that? if not then maybe rethink this properly. how many thimes has he been married?what was the reason for his marriage failing? is he in contact with his ex? is he young at heart? what does he expect from you? do you see him as a father figure? will the age gap difference be a problem a few yrs from now. these are just some questions you need to ask and answer honestly.
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reader, Your friend  +, writes (23 June 2009):
 He has a lot of stuff you will have to deal with, the kids alone will cause your problems as some are probably older than you. His relatives and friends will probably ostracise you and your own friends will have trouble connecting with him.As a result it will most likely be a very rocky road and you would have to be a very tough person to make sure the relationship and your happiness survived. On the other hand you could meet someone without that baggage and there would be you, that new person and a book with lots of blank pages that you could both fill instead of half a book that has already been filled by other people.
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