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writes:Hi I've just turned 17 and me and my girlfriend have started having sex.Everythings fine and i have an erection and then we start doing it and i ejaculate in less than 1 minute. I dunno whats going on. Sometimes i can only last for 30 seconds and i dunno why. I really need help, how do i go for longer? I don't wanna take pills or anything, i know people can go for like 10 minutes + so what's wrong with me??? 30 seconds isn't gunna do anything for herHelp please is there anything i can do to last longer?We use condoms if that makes a differenceThank you so much
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reader, bobbyrocks24  +, writes (23 May 2012):
Most guys who have this problem are young and new to the game of sex. I was also once like this my first time and a couple of times after...but after I became more familiar with the idea of sex I realized something: it is an amazing thing but I was thinking to much of it. I found myself unable to maintain my positive control and breathing and my heart rate would sky rocket...all of those lead to what my problem. I learned to work on my breathing and if I found myself getting close to the point of no return I would slowly and slyly pull away and would concentrate on her, giving myself a little break to cool down before I jumped back into the ring. I have gone from when I could barely last 20 seconds to lasting hours at a time...and when I did reach that point of no return it was like no other orgasm I had ever had before...it is worth it to take these tips into consideration.
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reader, kityymo  +, writes (24 June 2008):
hello. am 26 almost 27. i had sex with my girlfriend on fathers day. i lasted only few seconds before i watered her ........damn virgina. i was worried as she wanted more time of me inside her but could not last. is there any food for this? please help. need a hard erection.
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reader, Shawn E C +, writes (22 June 2008):
 hey, im 16 almost 17
all lads around our age have this problem if they are just starting to have a sexual relationship
i to have had this problem
but over time and experience you start to have more control of it and last longer than usual
the longest i have lasted untill i had ejaculate is just 1hour+30minutes to 2hours
i have been in sexual relation ships for just 3 - 4 years and got more confident in asking or explaining to my other half what problems i have(if i have any)
you will soon be able to last longer and will get more experience
hope this helps
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reader, mama2three +, writes (31 December 2007):
 There are also creams that you can apply to yourself that desensitize, but like Brooke5426 said, a lot of guys who just start having sex have this problem! Nothing to be ashamed of, it's just normal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2007): If you cum fast, then why not trying to just wait a while after the first quick one, and when your both ready do it again, you are young and should have no problem doing it a few times, as has been said you can get condoms that dull the penis head and so make you last longer, but doing it more than once is much better fun.
goog luck
Paul
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reader, brooke5426 +, writes (31 December 2007):
 Don't worry about it. You're only 17 and you have just started having sex. They might not admit it, but EVERY boy has this problem when they first start having sex. Your girlfriend will understand and you can do other things to please and satisfy her. You'll be able to last longer with experience. and keep using condoms! not using a condom will make you ejaculate even quicker.
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reader, chrissy32789 +, writes (31 December 2007):
 Hey sweetie, dont worrie about this alot of guys dont last long during sex specially if this is the first girl you have had sex with. What you could try doing is get yourself off befor sex that way you have already got off and that may help you last longer, but another thing you have to do is when you feel like you are about to cum slow down and go down on her (oral sex) that way you dont blow and just keep doing that that way you can last longer pretty much tease yourself. And no condoms dont make a diffrence that sometimes makes a guy last longer, and dont take no pills for it they dont always work. well try what i said. and maybe you will find it works
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2007): Every man will experience this at some point in his life and much more than once. The problem you have is that you are unexperienced and probably get a little too excited before anything goes on or you worry too much and it ends all to quickly.
Many people will probably tell you the same sort of things to help you but to be honest if its in your head its in your head and sometimes (from experience) it just doesnt go away.
You need to take things slowly dont rush yourself and get excited. Try using different types of condoms (available from any major shop - Boots / tescos etc that are specifically for people who want to last longer).
There is no need to take pills and dont be fooled into either as this may harm you internally. Try not to feel down about yourself for it happening either, if it does dont get all worried and shy away, just say 'Im sorry but i couldnt help myself' and just because you have finished doesnt mean its all over, kiss her and do anything for her that she wants.
The Key Points:
Dont Rush - relax and take things slowly.
Dont rush into Sex, enjoy getting to know each others body.
Use thicker condoms
If it does happen dont get worried, just except it.
It will happen again im afraid so just be patient and learn for yourself about how to control it. Remain relaxed and remember practice makes perfect (as long as you are safe doing it)
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