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writes:I'm a 32 Y/o female. I got married in Feb 2007. I met my husband while serving in Iraq, he was in my same unit. we got back to the states and I got pregnant. we set the date to marry. I was't so sure. I so love this man, but it wasn't the same. My best friend is lesbian...I experimented with her last year and we fell in love. I have told him I want a divorce, we argue so much... I dread when night time comes, because he always wants sex. I don't want sex, I don't even think of sex. I want to be with my friend, she makes me feel so good. She respects me and understands me. We have been friends for a long time. I'm so comfussed. I really want a divorce and he won't give it to me. Should I try to work it out with someone I don't love and pretend or go for the love of my life? what can I do?
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reader, oldfool  +, writes (5 May 2008):
 There doesn't seem to be any future of the marriage if this is how you feel. This is not what how you want to be.
Difficult as it is, try to cushion the shock of losing you and make him understand that you still care for him. It just wasn't meant to be.
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reader, JesseENG +, writes (5 May 2008):
the heart wants what the heart wants. maybe he tried to substitute sex with the lack of mutual love and respect in your relationship? just think of it like this...who do you think about when you go to sleep at night? who do you have those odd little daydreams about? who makes your day when you need them? only you can decide where you want to go....but the heart will always want what the heart wants....
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reader, Deema  +, writes (5 May 2008):
 No No No. Get the hell out of there. Its wrong for you. Its not what he wants, its about who you are and what you want. You're not confused at all. You said it all very clearly. You know what you want and its not him. Don't worry about the divorce at the moment, that will come later. Just get out and start being who YOU are, the rest will follow. Good luck hun.
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