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*pendy
writes:What can I say to my boyfriend?? I broke his heart:(?So my boyfriend told me something that happened with him and some girl that likes him.. Anyways I got it all wrong and thought he cheated on me with her..but it turns not to be true. I got really nasty and called my boyfriend all kinds of horrible names and now he wants to break up with me. He said I broke his heart.. and we can just be friends now:(But am so sorry..I've been crying on the phone to him for about 2hours..I love him so much.. and I've said am sorry so many times but he says I will do it again..Please help me..what can I text him to let him know am truthly sorry and that I do love him..Thanks..xx
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reader, GhostChild  +, writes (6 February 2011):
 Give him time and space. Crying on the phone for two hours will only push him further away.Don't smother him, don't force yourself on him and don't pressure him. Let him know that you are sorry, that you jumped to the wrong conclusion because of insecurities, and let him know it's only because you care about him so much that you're just too afraid that you'll lose him. Say that you want him back, but don't force it. Don't sit there and cry and send him emotional texts. If my girlfriend called me a cheater, insulted me and pushed me away, then started bawling her eyes out and crying over the phone to me, that wouldn't make me want to forgive her.Just be mature about it, admit fault, apologize and most of all, give him space and time to think. Guys need time to think things through.Best of luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2011): we loved each other madly i told my parents and also introduced him to my family and home and they accepted our love just for my happiness but were not really happy with it...because he did not inform his parents about me and our love so i forced him to tell in his house so that my parents will believe him that he is dedicated he asked me for some time to finish his semester studies but due to my family agony and force i begged him to ask his parents...he said even if they don't accept he will marry me... and due to pressure from my side he told his parents and they kept him home and stopped paying for his studies for ever and they also called my parents and shouted to not encourage and now even my parents are angry with me and we lost our relationship for ever....his parents suggest dire consequences if we marry and my boyfriend has totally stopped contacting me and his friends said it's over... i feel guilty that i spoiled his studies... now even i'm stressed out...i tried my best to keep our love but he gave up... he did not even feel, nor reply me when i told him i survived from dying.... he has taken me out of his life....... should i feel guilty that i forced him to tell, in his house...
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2011): As hurt and sorry as you claim to be, have you imagined for a moment that he might be even more hurt than you?
He was totally honest and open with you. He tried his best to be respectful by confiding in you and you assumed the worst about him.
Not only did you assume the worst, but you treated him badly.
That said, perhaps you learned a lesson about verbally abusing people. I have no tolerance with anyone who verbally abuses me (even if they have a valid point).
I can't deal with it and don't even want to try.
Woman often think they can get away with it because they think it's "just words" and they are "just women" and so they really can't hurt a guy. Well, they can.
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (3 February 2011):
 You showed your true colors and guess what, they were UGLY!
I don't blame him and I think he did the right thing. What you should learn from this is to not jump to conclusions. You should also learn that calling people nasty names is never a good plan, even when you feel hurt. It just shows what an immature person you really are.
All you can do is apologize sincerely and hope he accepts. I wouldn't waste another second with you though if I were in his shoes.
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reader, iReval +, writes (3 February 2011):
Spendi,
Honestly sounds like there are some trust issues arising within the relationship. Txting him acting desperate is not a way to get something or some one back. I would be frustrated, but any who I would do the following,
1. Tell him that you care and love him.
2. Explain to him that if he needs time to think about it you'll give him some time frame of days.
3. Tell him that even though your reaction was awful you have learned and that if he can't see pass this it shard formyou to believe that he cares/loves you.
4. Tell him he's hurting you mentally and emotionally.
After all that if he still has you playing the begging game Spendy it's time to seethe picture with different eyes.
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reader, just a female  +, writes (3 February 2011):
 well i think the most important thing to tell him is that you misunderstood him and that you are truelly sorry for the nasy unfair things you said to h im.
he said he just wanted to be friends right? well maybe that was just because he needed time to asess the situation that is why you need to tell him you didnt mean what you said before he decides that he doesnt want you.
if he loves you, like i think he does, hes just hurt thats all, then he should understand that you freaked out that he cheated on you, when he didnt.
i hope i have helped you in some way.
good luck!
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reader, pinkkisses24  +, writes (3 February 2011):
 Im sorry you hhave been so upset over this situation. However, I would suggest you try making it up to him with a gesture. Maybe a poem, dinner, chocolates or gift etc. Something from the heart which will express how deeply sorry you are.
Hope it helps
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