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writes:Hi , I have had a relationship for three years with a married man who still lives with his wife and has a disabled son age 25 . The Man I have been seeing has had two affairs in the past that his wife became aware of and tolerated . I really thought we may have a future , and do not wish to continue in a love triangle forever . However , I know this man has a duty to love , care and protect his Son . Can anyone help ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2011): I dated a married man for 6 years,i posted on this site i think in 2007,but the thruth is, married man when they are having an affair is bexause they are not not getting at home what they want. for ex: when my husbabdi was married his wife was horrible and still, fat, she didint take care about herself, and then I met him I was 28 that time and hes 43. I will be 37 hes 51, When we first started i knew it we were going to be together... He left family, everything for me,I never asked for, but he did.. I love him I miss him every second when his not with me. We love each other so much, Im very beautiful woman and he tells me 100 times a day he don't deserve to be loved this much. We are a happy couple...Too bad to his ex-wife, her fault, Why women think that they were married for long time and they don't need to care about them anymore??? Go to gym, for for a plastic surgery... I think most the married man stay married because they were sorry for there wifes think about it.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (19 April 2011):
 his wife looks the other way... you're his third mistress...
he's not leaving his wife.
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reader, macdubh712 +, writes (17 April 2011):
Caring Guy had some good points. I would like to also say that he will most likely NEVER leave his wife for any mistress. CG said that you should probably leave and salvage some self respect; he's right. People would not this affair lightly considering the circumstances (disabled son) and you would be an outcast. I'm interested to know if you knew he was married at first? His wife has done way too much in the way of tolerating him already; imagine how you would feel if that were your husband? He's a worthless sumbit*h...He's not going to leave his family so you should probably terminate this situation. Good luck.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (17 April 2011):
He will absolutely not leave his family for you. Ever. In general, there is a, 11-12% chance of a married man leaving his wife and children for a mistress. In your case, this man has a wife and disabled son to look after, so he won't leave at all. On top of that he's already had two other affairs and didn't leave for either of those women. I'm sorry, but you're another mistress who has allowed herself to be used. He won't leave. All you can do now is end it and salvage some self respect, because if it comes out that you were having an affair with a man who has a disabled son, I imagine people around you will not look kindly upon you again and you'll end up very isolated. And feel bad for that wife of his. She truly has given everything for her son, even her own respect, and all she gets from that shit of a husband is treatment like this. He's appalling.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2011): He isn't leaving. His wife tolerates his infidelity and so he gets the best of both worlds by having his family and his thrills on the side so why would he. It sounds like he has you convinced it has to do with his son and I'm sure that is what you want to hear and believe. Truth is people divorce all the time and these aren't childless couples. Three years is past the honeymoon period in your affair and so now he is thinking more reasonably than before and he's more used to seeing you when he sees you...men are very routine and compartmentalise well.
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