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writes:hello all, tonight i'm out for a meal with my boyfriend, his friend and his friends wife - i really am worried about conversation i'm not a natterer, a huge talker, i prefer to listen.i envy girls who get a bottle of wine a talk none stop for ages i guess i dont have a lot to say i want to be liked and not thought of as boring can you help with some topics and tips pretty please ? thankyou!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2014): The easiest way really is to let them lead the conversation and then ask questions relevant to what they're talking about so you so you both seem interested and polite.
OP people love to talk about themselves and they love people who give them an opportunity to do so.
You don't have regale people with fantastic stories, just let them tell theirs and participate by asking questions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhello thanks for your answers i read the first in the taxi and it helped i just relaxed and tried to stop worrying about how others would feel about me, i know we are all different there are lots of say 'brassy' girls who would blow me out of the water but i guess i dont want to really socialise with that kind... as it happens his mates wife was lovely and down to earth and we had a laugh a genuine not forced one, i guess the only way you can be happy is by being yourself first - thanks guys xxx
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reader, desiree075  +, writes (5 January 2014):
I prefer quiet listeners. I wouldn't try to change anything about yourself.
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reader, M Proops +, writes (5 January 2014):
I'm sure after a glass of wine or two you will open up and become chatty.I'm quiet as hell when sober but after a pint or two i'll talk about anything.most people are like that I think.
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (4 January 2014):
You don't need "topics and tips", you just need to be comfortable with yourself. Not everyone talks a lot and most people understand that. I'm sure your boyfriend has figured that out by now.
If you try to talk about things you're not comfortable with it could appear unnatural and possibly give them a unfavorable impression of you.
A good way for a quiet person to fit in is to just ask ask few questions about people. When they answer, listen for something that interests you then asks another question if you'd like to hear more about it.
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