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writes:Hi there were some girls in my life that i couldn't make good relationship with them. now i'm 28 and feel bad because i'm alone and I think maybe I can't make friendship with girls anymore. first of all sometimes I think what should i talk about with girls to attract or maybe to make close? after that i don't know how to react to make intimacy or react to respond to girls specific behaviors , and the other thing that i'm worry about is i don't know how to meet new girls.it depend on my situation of life , my location , my work , and so on but maybe i don't have any skills about it. Reply to this Question
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reader, mehrq +, writes (6 January 2014):
mehrq is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank you !
i'm going to find some girls to talk with but that is not easy and maybe very hard in my position.
i think girls and women avoiding me.
totally i decided to go on and make change in my life.
life goes on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2014): How do you make friends with men? You simply start a conversation, and if you hit it off; a friendship starts.
It's the same way with women; accept feelings don't always grow immediately in the romantic way. Sometimes you just have to get to know her.
If you are 100% awkward around women; you have to learn not to be afraid of them.
Take an exercise class, or a cooking class. Take a dance class, and learn how to do Latin salsa. You will be close to women and get comfortable with them. You will be in a class and have something to talk about. You don't have to ask them out, just be friendly. You're far from ready for that anyway.
Stop trying to have a relationship; and just get comfortable being around women first.
I've said this before to others; but you have to learn to swim with the sharks before you overcome your fear of them.
If you're in a room full of women, and there aren't too many other men, they will usually warm up to you. Just don't get weird and try to pick up ever woman you see. They don't like that.
Shyness is a crippling disease these days. People don't know how to talk to other people. How do you work all day and not interact with people and overcome shyness?
People can give you advice here; but you have to put what you're told into practice.
You have to figure it out on your own, no matter what people say.
You have to use your own personality to charm ladies and get their attention. Then figure out a way to keep their attention. It's really all instinct and determination. We're not there to hold your hand, or shove you toward women. So you have to practice, practice, practice.
Learn a craft, so you can be around a lot of people in a room together. Then you can talk about what you're doing and share an interest with strangers who will come to like you. Unless you share something in common with people, there is usually little to talk about, but the weather.
Attend socials at church, if you go to church. Talk to anybody and everybody to overcome being shy around people.
Church people are friendly and there are usually very sweet girls who attend. They are easier to approach for a guy like you.
You don't know how to have a relationship; because you don't know how to be comfortable with women yet.
Once you become comfortable being around "all people;" you'll build enough confidence to talk to women. Then they will be comfortable talking to you.
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