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writes: Hello, this is going to sound sad but i've been asked out to go to the cinema with this guy from college. I know him, but we only speak online so it's kind of awkward. I'm 16 and it's like my first ever date if thats what this is. I'm seriously freaking out i don't know how to go about it:$ It's the second time he's brought up about going to the cinema we havent arranged anything specific but i have agreed to go, i really really like him and don't want to mess up? Plus i'm the shyest girl known and he's the coolest one around.. Help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your comments! Yeah i have met him i do know him, we are both 16. We have exchanged a few words around college but its hard because he's always with his circle of friends and im always with mine. I don't feel embarrassed of the situation more of myself, like getting dropped off by my dad isn't exactly the best look. A friend suggested i meet her in town and walk down to the cinema then meet back up with her again. Basically i'm making a mountain out of a mole-hill but can't get over my nerves!
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reader, Natalie:)  +, writes (4 November 2010):
 It may sound stupid now but next time your walking down the street everything you see think of a thing you could say about it. If you only talk online conversation might be awkward so you may need to pick things from thin air to talk about aka what's around you. Basically if ou think it might be conversationally awkward then think of some interesting things about yourself that he will like to tell him or ask him about his interests.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (4 November 2010):
 Interesting, so technically you guy complete what we call high school at 16? But I'm guessing "college" is more or less a prep for uni..We do call uni, college. Thanks for the clarification.
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (4 November 2010):
 Tennisstar88 - in the UK "College" is the term used for schools that teach A Levels at 16-18. This is the first level of "optional" schooling in the UK, as once students have completeed their GCSE's at 16, they can leave full time schooling. Universities are for 18+ where they teach degree level courses.
I think that could be a confusion between the UK and US systems.
OP - You say you only speak online? Why is this? Why can he/you not strike a conversation or hang out whilst you are at college?
It would probably be far less scary to do talk to each other face to face in a casual situation, rather than when its just you and him?
Just be yourself, be happy, laugh, talk to him. Try and get lots of eye contact and relax as much as you can.
Tiger x
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (4 November 2010):
Wait you've never met him? And he's a college guy? No offense just curious as to what a college guy wants with a teen..Anyways, I would meet him in person first preferably in a well lit public area with lots of people. A coffee shop, just so you can see who he is, and talk to him a bit to ease off those first date jitters. Then set a specific night you want to go to the movies, then he comes by picks you up then you're off. I suggest meeting him first, just talk to him like you would online minus the lol and brb. Good luck!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (4 November 2010):
 Try not to stress, you are going to get nervous it is only natural to be nervous before a date, and it doesnt get easier with time either so you just need to pluck up the courage to make a time and dont back out of it, if he is'nt shy this is half the battle because if he starts talking to you it will put you at ease and you will probably start feeling more confident. the cinema is great for a first date as you dont need to keep up conversation through a film. So just try and enjoy yourself.
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reader, LovelessAct1 +, writes (4 November 2010):
If he's asking you out, he already likes who you are. You don't have to be anyone but you. Don't worry about how shy you are or how popular/cool he is. You should still, however, strike simple conversation to show that you're interested. If you're silent the entire time, he might think you don't want to be there with him.Just make small talk with him. Ask him to tell you about what he's been up to lately, his school, work, friends, etc. If you're the shy one, let him do the talking and just smile and listen until he starts asking you questions. Then simply answer honestly. Eventually you'll start coming out of your shell with him and be able to participate in more of the conversation.Honestly, just be who you are. If he doesn't like who that is, its his loss and you'll have plenty of other guys giving chase in your lifetime :) Everyone has a first date, and its that first experience that's the toughest.
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reader, I-Love-CSI +, writes (4 November 2010):
Just relax. It's obvious he likes you so, lets face it, he has asked you on a date.
First, make sure you know when your going, where and how so you won't be late or anything, and don't dress to formally or anything because you're going to the cinema, not clubbing.
If you feel panicky during the date, just take deep breaths and close your eyes (but not when your walking or anything or you'll walk into the wall!)
Relax. Enjoy yourself. Enjoy the film.
Hope this helps, good luck! :)
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