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writes:Does every relationship go through a little rough patch? Things were going great till like a couple days ago now things are just on the verge of being okay. We have been in a relationship for almost a year but have been friends for two years. I just want things to go back how they were last week. We have both been upset and stressed for different reasons im worried he doesnt love me as much as he did or that he'll leave me soon, Hes been stressed out becuase he wants "adventure" in his life and says i just want "happly ever after". Well i told him that he can have his adventure as long as hes with me il have my happly ever after. Idk if that made things any better for him but i still feel upset. How can we get things back on track? Thank you. Reply to this Question
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (4 November 2010):
 Yes! And it doesn't stop even when you get married, but they have handy dandy resources such as marriage retreats and marriage counseling.
Right now you're kinda limited, although they have couples counseling which I think is for couples with serious mental, and past issues. Hate stress, it's easy to let it overcome you then you find yourself venting it at your boyfriend/husband. It's best to keep that in check by finding an outlet to relieve your stress.. Such as go tanning, get a mani/pedi, go for a run, a walk, hit the gym, take a nap, turn on your favorite TV show, etc.
Now, for the rough patch..problems don't solve themselves unless you both sit down and really look at what the issue is. I find it best to list the problem, then together write out what you think is a solution right underneath it. Ask him what he means by wanting "adventure" , does he mean you guys have turned into this boring couple? If so take it as a cue to get out and do things, go bungee jumping, get in the car and take a random road trip, maybe go see a landmark, if you're 21 go into a casino and play a hand at one of the tables, take a little walk on the wild side. You and him have to find out what exactly is causing this rough patch then put your heads together for a solution.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (4 November 2010):
 Yes most relationships do hit a rocky patch, its how we deal with them that gets us through it, you said you are unsure how he feels well then ask him honesty is the best thing in a relationship and you need to tell him how you feel, the only way you will overcome your problems is if the both of you face them head on.
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave  +, writes (4 November 2010):
life is one big challenge and these challenges are set to test us and our resolve.
every relationship has its ups and downs for whatever reason. some big, some small.
how much have you discussed him wanting "adventure" and you wanting "happily ever after"? It's hard to advise without knowing a bit more.
it could be just that he wants to inject a bit more fun into the relationship on all levels, or worst case, he may be looking for something different
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