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writes:5 months into a relationship, and i feel like she's the world to me. Even with other girls offering me to go out with them instead of my current gf, my gf means the world to me and i would never want to lose her. yet, i am too young for marriage in my thoughts. Any clue what to think? Reply to this Question
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reader, bonym  +, writes (23 August 2006):
 Well I am sure happy that this girl rocks your world and you are very happy but marriage does not necessarily mean that it will make it better, what I mean is, I am of the old fashioned way, you meet someone, you fall in love, you marry, have kids then you settle down, (in that order!!!) if the world was ideal but it aint!!! Dont rush into something as final as marriage especially if you say that you are young. Wait and see how it goes and then who knows, in the future you may be walking down the isle!!! Good luck. xXx
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reader, chunkymunky +, writes (23 August 2006):
 marraige is only a good idea if you actually want to live your whole life with that person, dont marry the person because you are afraid of losing them. hope i helped!
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reader, Helen1986 +, writes (23 August 2006):
 I think that you should not rush into things hunny. You have only been with your girlfriend for five months, this is a short time. She may mean the world to you at the moment but what about in another five months time? I suggest that you wait a couple of years and if you still feel the same then, go for it. Well done for turning down all the other women asking you out. Good luck and I really hope that it works out for you.
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reader, sugersweet02 +, writes (23 August 2006):
 marriage is for love and want to spend your life with each other not just to keep somone, show her you love her but not in marriage! you will only be unhappy trust me good luck xox
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2006): Read through the marriage category on this website, you will soon learn that marriage does not equal keeping someone!
You can't really ever stop someone from leaving you. You just have to be a great boyfriend and be true to yourself. If things then go wrong at least you know it wasn't you!
But if things work out and you live happily ever after, great!
Good luck
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reader, camille +, writes (23 August 2006):
 You didn't give your age, but what you say makes me answer that 'yes, you're too young for marriage'. 5 months is such a short amount of time and there's still so much to find out about each other. The early stages of most relationships are so full of love that you can't possibly ever imagine it not being this way. Give it time to settle. You may feel the same in a year, even 2 which would be great but don't rush into anything in these early stages of flourishing emotions as it's not a very realsitc view.
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reader, Turgo +, writes (23 August 2006):
you sound alout like me. Its normal not to want to loose the person who is the world to you. The question is why would you loose her? If you worryed about her ending up with someone else then. Marriage isnt a good idea. Marriage will not keep someone from leaving you. If you are worryed about her leaving for unknown reasions. Well all I would say then is you worry about the future a little much. Since its been a 5 month relationship I would recommend that you don't marry her. Its too early for that. Maybe after a year, at the least.... but I would recommend at the least 2 to 3 years before thinking about that. Cause if you cant stay together with her at past 5 months of just dating. Marriage would be no diffrent. Hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2006): Its great that the two of you seem to be enjoying one another's company and that things are going well.
Five months is really a very short amount of time to really get to know someone - their good points and their bad. Really, even if you think you know her well, in actual fact you're both still in the beginning stage.
What makes you fear you could possibly lose her? Is there anything specific you could put your finger on?
If not, if all is well, just continue to date her and enjoy your relationship. See how it goes. No need to rush into anything. If you think you are too young for marriage (regardless of how old you actually are) then you should take it slowly at this point. Just be honest with her.
Good luck!
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