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writes: hi, im 16 and im going out with a boy, but he wants sex and i dont want to i want to wait until im 20 or even marriage but he keeps pushing me into it and im suppose to see him tommorow and night and do it but i don't want to, i can't tell him because he gets angry and slaps me or something so i cant stand up to him. im scard of him.what should i do, i told him if he hurts me anymore ill leave him but then hes supper nice after that and makes me think twice but i dont know if i should brake up with him for good as he might hurt me and he even threaded i have to have sex with him or he'll tie me to a bed and do it and i believe him because hes almost done it to another girl friend odthis i cant believe i moved in with him please give me advise!!!! and should i brake up with him, should i have sex with him. what should i do!!!
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reader, pudinn  +, writes (20 October 2009):
I am 38 i have been married 3 times, all abusive. Each time i would end up having sex with them, just so it would stop. Believe me i regret it night after night. Especially now seeing my 19 year old daughter going down the same path. my story is way to long, please dont second guess dont hesitate get out because believe me from extreme experience it will get alot worse.
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (23 August 2006):
 The others are right... Get out now!! Before he does something alot more nasty to you.... the threatening and the hitting you is against the law like he has, and to then threaten rape to you is inconcievable that this guy has a single nice bone in his body, any guy that really cared about you and wanted to be with you would not treat you in this way, would not threaten such things and certainly would not ask you to do something against your will. Tell your partents or somebody you trust that he has threatened these things in case you are scared to leave him and just let someone know whats going on so that you can protect yourself. Get out now and make your self safe, if need be at least report this to the police that he has hit you and threatned you, he cannot get away with it and shouldt be allowed to do this to you or anybody else.
Take care x x
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reader, maxsteel86 +, writes (23 August 2006):
 He hit you? Even hell is too good for him... Leave him fast! Things can only get worse. You're still young, you can move out before you get trapped with no where to go.
Find someone you can trust to stay over with until you can get your own place or something. If he acts super nice after you've left, dont fall for it! Its just an act
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reader, zosey +, writes (22 August 2006):
 hey, well first of all u shud tell someone hu will look after u and keep u safe from him such as a parent or sumthing wen hes out and ur alone u cud get some stuff into a bag and go see ur parents or siblings if not msby a friend, then u should maby consider contacting the police as he is a threat to women and should be stopped from doing this to someone else, i hope u get help and keep safe, take care sweetie, zoe x
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reader, camille +, writes (22 August 2006):
 Leave him immediately and go somewhere safe. He's a bully and sadly is praying on your vulnerability. He's getting a sick kick out of threatening you and will almost certainly know that you are scared. Go to a family member, a friend or a refuge is you have to, but stay away from him. This is not love. Love doesn't make you do things against your will. It is worrying that you knew he'd tried this before with someone else but still moved in with him. You seem too young to be living with him, I'm guessing he's older but that doesn't mean you have to do things someone his age would.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2006): Are you living with him? Because you state, "I cant believe I moved in with him". The we have to assume you and he are roomates who have not delved into having sex yet. ? I suggest you pack a bag and go back home to be under the protection of your parents or someone you trust...like an older aunt or family member. It sounds like you have gotten into a 'ugly, bad' situation rife with abuse, fear, manipulation and coercion. Absolutely..no one has the right to do that to you. By staying in your situation, you are setting yourself up for disaster and further painful degradation by a broken, emotionally disturbed young man. I hope you 'love yourself' to do the righ thing by protecting yourself and taking all the steps to finding your strength and courage...to walk away. Get out of there today--and if he lays a hand on you...go straight to the police. It sounds like he needs serious help. This is a guy, no woman should be involved with. Good luck and GO! Get some help.
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reader, Tine +, writes (22 August 2006):
 no i dont think that you shouldhave sex with h im at all. First of all a guy who slaps a girl is nothing but a coward. Second of all if he treats you so bad then he definately doesnt deserve your body. I think it s time you should stand up to him because if you dont then it'll be like this for the rest fo your life and this is not what you want. You need to leave him otherwise you'll be stuck in this rut for too long and pretty soon you'll never be able to get outta it. If he decides to be nice to you when you do decide to leave him thenlet him grovel for a few weeks, make it pretty clear to him that you are leaving him on the fact that he is trying to force you to do something that you dont want to do yet, also that he is violent towards you and that is no base for a relationship! BY him making threats of actually tying to you the bed for sex are actual threats that he will rape you, is this someone who you want to carry on a relationship with? You deserve better than this low life and i suggest that you get out now before its too late, if things do get too voilent tell someone like your parents or if it gets worse then tell the police
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reader, David Lewis +, writes (22 August 2006):
 The first thing you should do is contact the police.
Any guy who ever hits a girl can never be called a man, this guy is a coward and gets his kicks from bullying vulnerable girls.
Do you have any male friends who can help you through this? Maybe your parents?
This guy does not deserve somebody like you and needs to be dumped as soon as possible.
I would destroy the guy if he was ever involved with anybody I knew.
The only thing I hate more than lies is a male who assaults a female, physical or otherwise.
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