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writes:HelloIve recently started to like this girl and i have only started to realise this when we were apart on half term from school. Ive missed her and havent been able to go to sleep because ive been thinking about her. Now as quickly as that feeling came it went.Now i was thinking about asking her out but the problem is that im not sure how much i like her as i dont get that feeling that you feel when you meet a girl when you heart beats hard e.t.c, Shes pretty, beutiful and i like her and i can see / imagine myself going out with her but i dont want to go out with her and then realise i dont like her. What do you think ?Whats wrong with my feeling ? their not as strong as they used to be with my other crushesAny Advice is appreciatedThanks
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reader, epifanatical  +, writes (1 November 2008):
 Its very common at your age to feel mixed feelings, doesnt matter who they are over. The advice given here is what I would agree on. Just be her friend, and step back from the more serious feelings until you can see what it is you truly feel. By all means, go out with her but try to keep it group dates for now. At least the pressure is off then. Good luck :)
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reader, shiraz +, writes (1 November 2008):
hiyah, your feelings arent the same with every girl you know! yeah starting as mates is a better idea but you seem to want to jump straight in then back out. work out in your head hows best to deal with it then take further action.
feelings change sometimes and its not something you can control so just be honest with yourself and set realistic goals. best of luck - enjoy a friendship first and see where it takes you. x
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reader, Jonty23 +, writes (1 November 2008):
Well - are you saying that you find her physically attractive but you find her personality a bit lacking?It sounds like as you've thought about the person herself you find less to like.This is normal - I could wheel out all sorts of cliches like 'beauty only being skin deep', 'judging books by their covers' and so forth - but what you are finding out is that attraction between two people is based more than just on what you initially see, and that it is based on the connection between two personalities and characters as much as the superficiality of looks/clothing/hairstyle etc.If she doesn't float your boat now - don't bother - you're only young - there's plenty more out there !!
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reader, Reebe +, writes (1 November 2008):
 Just because you like this girl doesn't mean you have to date her.
Just try being friends and see how it goes, it would be wrong to take things further when your not sure.
Feelings change and maybe your just supposed to be great mates!
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