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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:a good friend told me that he is attracted to me. i like him a lot as a friend and he is a great human being. in general i am afraid of relationships/getting close because im insecure about my many faults and hide some big emotional problems. i really want to continue being good friends, but i don't want it to be awkward or for him to suffer. i also don't want to be afraid of getting close to people for the rest of my life. i suppose there is a personal and a relationship issue here. what should i do specifically?
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reader, pietry  +, writes (3 January 2009):
 He is attracted to you right, so he sees something beautiful in you. When somebody loves another person, it loves him/her for their good and their bad. Even if you have faults, who doesn't ? Don't be afraid of them as all that makes us human are our goods and bads. Nobody is perfect and I'm sure he knows that. And still, he said he is attracted to you. ( and people actually can love others' bads)
If you like him then why not give it a try. Witch-fire's advice is also very good
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reader, witch-fire  +, writes (3 January 2009):
 Don't feel insecure. Just concentrate on the stuff thats good in your life and it becomes easier to ignore the stuff you feel bad about. A few months ago I got really insecure about myself, so I wrote a list of stuff I liked about my life and myself and it helped make me feel much better; it boosted my confidence loads too.
As for your friend, why not give it a shot. He may surprise you, especially if it's just your insecurities holding you back, and you don't have to share everything with him.
I hope I helped.
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