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writes: I'm 18 and a student at a university. One of my teacher's assistants is this guy Paul. One night I went out with Paul for drinks and his friend Jimmy came along.Jimmy paid for all my drinks, and even though I wasn't attracted to him, I let him.We started talking about stuff and I found out that he is 26, his dad owns some big Fortune 500 company, and he's VERY rich. Jimmy doesn't really work, but he's trying to find a job (doesn't wanna work with his daddy)So he's rich, and I was like "SCORE!!" haha. So we started hanging out more. And I think Jimmy really likes me because he's always trying to kiss me and tells me how much he cares about me. I only put up with this because he buys me cars (yep, more than one), jewelry, clothes, food, presents for my family, whatever I need. I'd never seriously date him, he's far too old and far too ugly. However, I do enjoy getting presents.I'm not a gold digger by the way. I just like getting presents.All I have to do is call him up and say "Jimmy, my dad needs a Rolex." and POOF! it's there.I think he thinks we're going to date or something. And I can't date a guy who is 7 years older than me, that's just gross.So my question is, how can I tell him he's too old to date me, but I would still enjoy getting presents every now and then?I don't wanna lose my sugar daddy, but he's falling for me and I can't let that happen!
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reader, WastedLife  +, writes (30 April 2008):
If you are real, you are a creepy, gross, disgusting gold digger. Most gold diggers are not this overt, and I have to wonder what you are even doing in college. What are you studying? Theft?A prostitute is generally an honest woman, giving value for value. What you are doing is a con game - promising value(sex, relationship) in exchange for his presents, yet providing nothing. Either give this man hot sex and real love, or get out of the way before he wakes up to your antics.I had a wonderful relationship with a woman 30 years younger than me for years, and we are still good friends. I regularly dance with women your age and we both have fun. Sooner than you think, YOU will be 26, and ultimately, you will be old and ugly too. Old eventually happens to the lucky ones, but ugly inside need never.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2006): I'd like to write off your complete immaturity to your age - 18. But I won't I was 18 once - I'm 47 now and have been the classic sugar baby for years - I am not a 'kept woman, prostitute, call girl, money for sex or any other title you can think of' I'm self employed,thanks to one of my sugar daddys generosity more than 15 years ago, I couldn't have done it without him (and I don't mean just his money - his friendship and wisdom with money taught me how to be a business woman - we are still great friends to this day) I want the same type of respect a man with great wealth often wants. I'm not just arm candy - I'm brilliant and trustworthy. A true sugar baby is going to be a sugar daddy's true friend - with no designs on him for marriage, ownership or anything else - like his money. Wealthy men with a little experience can spot a golddigger and greed a mile away, and generally you don't find them associating with the type. I feel for this gent, you need to get a job of your own and stop misusing his generosity.
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reader, pica +, writes (8 November 2006):
Nah .. I'm not buying, even if you claim some old guy is.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (8 November 2006):
 Sorry but I don't believe this is true, I think your are sharing your fantasy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2006): You cant really be this stupid.
You are one of the people making the world a worse place. Dont even bother recycling , because your karma is way negative. And that is gross.
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reader, vina_101  +, writes (8 November 2006):
 Sorry if this is a bit harsh but the tuth has to be said. Or at least the truth how I see it. Here goes:
Stop denying it. You ARE a gold digger. What you are doing is wrong. You are using this man. Don't you have a conscience? You have insulted him calling him ugly etc and yet you are more than willing to accept his gifts and you are happy that he thinks so highly of you. It is not fair on him. End it now before you really hurt this guy. The only reasion he buys you all this stuff is because he must really like you. How can you take advantage of someone who thinks so highly of you? Think about it...Let's say you have a brother. How would you feel if he was spending loads of money on a girl who was using him but he wasn't aware of it because he was too blind to see her true intentions?
I suggest you tell him how you really feel and after that keep your distance from him, and for heavens sake STOP accepting gifts from him! Maybe you should even give back some of the gifts he's already given you so he can't say you owe him anything. In future don't use people for what they have.I'm sure you wouldn't like it if someone used you so don't do it to other people. But maybe you'll have to learn that the hard way because what goes around always comes right back around.
Just end it with this guy and don't do anything like this again ok?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2006): To answer your question anyhow, you can always just tell him that you would like to continue to offer your body up for his yummy money. It all really comes down to what you're up for and if the other person or party accepts it or not. If the guy is a continuing fool, then let him. He can come here for advice if he so desires. Until that time comes, you can do the slightly more moral thing and tell him what you want and what you're willing to give in return.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2006): honey, take it from personal experience, you are a gold digger. if you want him to buy you presents, you'll have to put out plain and simple. most people will say you need to get away from him, because leading him on is no good. but if you dont feel guilty about treating someone like shit and taking stuff you dont deserve, you're going to have to give him something. its not rocket science, honey. i've been with many guys, old and young who did the same things as your man, and to be honest most of them dont care that they're having to buy you things to gain a companion. its sad and pathetic, but thats life. you both have issues, thats how those relationships happen. so either figure out yourself (you're still young) or keep doing what you're doing. but, telling him you dont want to date him, will probably get you either MORE presents because he'll want to win you over, or less because he'll realize you're a gold digger. which, face it honey, you are.
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