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writes:Like my guy friend E has been dating this girl C for two months....I got the guts to tell him HE'S obsessed! He only hangs with her and no one else! He even stops texting when theyre hanging and he only talks about her! But everyone knows he will get hurt cause C lied about being a virgin. There's a tape and seven guys to prove it! Yet he thinks she is! So I told him that and that after they do it, she always lies and cries to us gals about the guy forcing her...I dont want E hurt....what to do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBTW, she's 18 and he is 15....
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2010): if i didnt no any better id say u were jealous. Im soz but its not ur buisness to meddle. Lots of girls lie about virginity and im not saying its right todo that but mayb she really likes him and wants him to think good of her. U hav no right to interfer to the point of telling him her sexual history, thats up to her and him not u. If she were cheating on him then fine but she hasnt done anything wrong as of yet. Leave her alone coz if it goes wrong u r going to end up being blamed. He's old enough so dont undermine his judgment by trying to decide for him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI dont date no more cause guys tried using me....and all end up like asses to me and I'm done with abuse!
Secondly he considers himself one cause he was raped...and he's riding on this to be a good thing cuz he's been upset and the vids on porntube too....
But now he's mad cause I did tell him everything....I HATE the honeymoon phase......
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reader, KidfromLA93 +, writes (21 August 2010):
Unfortunately he has to experience this himself , if you keep saying to your friend E that she C is not the right person for him than he could get mad and not talk to you anymore no matter if you are right or not or if you just want to protect him , he now lives in a other world away from reality , because he is in love and when we are in love we just see things that we want to see on our partners.
Best you could do is let them be together , i know it sounds harsh , but he will wake up one time and will have learned a lesson from it. When this moment comes just be there for him and cheer him up , because thats what friends are here for , again don't try to take steps against this Girl because it will just harm your friendship to the guy and you don't want that.
Wish you luck and again think about what i said , i hope it helped because i experienced it my self , i can relate to the guys situation a lil i was once blind too , but my friends did not say anything because they knew i would have gotten mad , but they were there to support me and i will never forget it, i love my friends.
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reader, heartbroken101  +, writes (21 August 2010):
 you need to talk to him about it. dont be forceful and accusing...sit and talk as a friend to him. if she is your friend you need to tell her what she is doing is very very wrong and hurtful and she will not only lose this guy she will end up losing alot of friends if she doesn't stop lying. its not helping anyone and E can get very hurt and could turn into something much more serious even if she didn't intend it to get to that it may.
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reader, lsickle +, writes (21 August 2010):
quite frankly nothing. The harder you push the issue the easier your going to make it on c to create even more distance. This is one of those situations where all you can be there for him. Sometimes a guy just has to find out the hard way. You know they say that loves brain patterns and insanity are closely aligned. Your guy friend is most definetly IN love with her. Which means there probably is not a soul on this earth that can do what you ask. All you can do is be there if the horrible things you say will happen. Insure he has a support structure that what a true friend is.
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