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writes:Two weeks ago, I finally got together with the guy that I've been in love with for the last year. We've been close friends for two years and even though I told him how I felt six months ago, it's not been until recently that he's realised that he's in love with me too.The relationship is amazing because we know each other so well, and we are so compatible. In spite of this, we've argued a few times in the last week about really stupid things. That might not be unnatural, but the problem is that these small arguments REALLY get to me, and my world is turned upside down. To me, there is no such thing as a small argument between us, and I actually start to feel scared when we argue.Am I just being over sensitive? Examples of what we've argued over are things like how much time to spend together or him not liking some of the things I say/do. I think these arguments can clearly be put down to slight hitches on converting our relationship from a friendship to a romantic one, but I can't help these arguments really hurting me.Can anybody give me advice? I hate the fact that I can feel like this from such a small thing. Am I being too sensitive, or could it be the way he acts within an argument? Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2007): Please copy and paste this link into your browser for some advice on how to fight fairly...I guess I am giving someone some free advertisement, but I think it might help you to read this.
Everyone argues but it is important how you handle yourself and how you end the argument...if you are feeling very hurt, there may be some things that are fair about the way your boyfriend is fighting with you and vice versa.
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reader, rammsteinfan  +, writes (6 January 2007):
 You are not over sensitive, it is that you love him so that it hurts. Don't let it hurt you so....everyone argues, even i do with my bf! And I feel the same way you do!!
I just let it slide...and you will find out that your bf will forget what he argued about. Just keep your cool, and don't let it hurt you so!
Luck and Hugs
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reader, CarrieMagdelene +, writes (6 January 2007):
 Hey, what's up! Although the arguments I get into with my boyfriend are generally healthy, he does cross the line, and I feel very hurt and like I'm just making a big deal out of it. I know that it's not the case, that it's not my fault for feeling this way, but it's hard to believe that at times. Just know it isn't your fault he's making you feel bad, and that only he has control of his actions. You're not alone. Good luck and enjoy life! -Carrie
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