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writes:im 14 and my mum suffers from depression everyonce in awhile she has a breakdown and says she wants to kill herself and cries everyday, she is like this at the moment and my sister has a boyfriend right now so is not helping me to look after her because her and her boyfriend are having a rough patch, so i have to be there for my mum and make sure she is happy and i have to listen to my sister and help her with her boyfriend troubles because shes getting depressed now to, i really dont know what to do or who to turn to i cant talk to family cuz that will send mum over the top because she hates are family looking down on her, please help i feel like breaking down but i cant because i have to look after everyone else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2009): thankyou, i appriciate your help :]
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reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (24 August 2009):
 I wouldn't want to be in your shoes. It's a huge responsibility, especially as you're only 14. You sound very mature.It just sounds like you need someone to look after you. You need to tell someone how you feel. This website is a great start so well done. But you do need to tell someone close to you how you feel. What about your friends at school? Do you have a grandparent, aunt, uncle or cousin you can talk to?Send me a private message if you just wanna chat =]
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reader, devastated2008  +, writes (24 August 2009):
 You don't always have to be strong. I know it seems like if you break down everything will fall apart. Your in a very scary place right and you don't want things to get even worse... but sometimes things have to get a lot worse to get ALOT better.Your holding things together for everybody but its not a good together its just surviving... you all deserve better, especially you. If you need a day off like Tish said take it... and if things get worse let it. I know that is scary as heck, but your mom needs to see how bad things really are for YOU. If she only sees you being strong and protecting everybody she thinks your ok and your not. Sometimes the best gift you can give to another person is to take care of yourself... I will keep you in my prayers.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (24 August 2009):
 Oh sweetie, you shouldn't be in this position of having to look after everyone else, that's not your job! You should be busy growing up and learning about yourself and enjoying your childhood before all the pressures of adult life come piling on top of you. So I'm sorry your mom has depression and your sister also has her own problems. I think you can let your sister worry about her own problems right now, the thing you need to do is make sure you're okay.
I have found a link for you, they have people trained to support the teens and children who call in with their problems. It's a free call too, so you're not costing any money and the number won't show up on the telephone bill. ["Because ChildLine is an 0800 number, calls are free and don't show up on a BT or cable phone bill. Calls to ChildLine on 0800 1111 are currently free from all the existing networks - 3, BT Mobile, Fresh, O2, Orange, T Mobile, Virgin, Vodafone. We have been told that calls will not appear on any of these bills. The number will still appear in your list of dialled calls on your mobile. If you don't want people to see the number you should delete this from your called number list."]
Their number is 0800 1111. Their website is: http://www.childline.org.uk/Pages/default.aspx
Try to remember that you're not going to be able to fix things for your mother or sister; they need to manage their problems without make you the one responsible. It's okay to take a day off from everyone's problems and just look after yourself. I think calling Childline will help you find the resources you need to cope.
Take care. Hugs.
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