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writes:Hi There, Me and my girlfriend have been dating for a year, and I have somewhat of a problem, I don't like other people looking at her and when I say this I mean for example she went to get fitted for a dress and had to stand in her bra and underwear, This annoys me because other people are looking at something that only I normally see. Another example is when she wears her really short skirts and guys can look at her. I'm looking to see what I can do abotu this. Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2007): Do what I do man, if someones eyeing up my girlfriend or she tells me she is, I usually think to myself "haha, good luck, shes mine, gutted mate!". It helps you out a lot, and makes a joke of the offenders rather then make you get annoyed with them. I even say it to my girlfriend sometimes, if she tells me someones eying her up, I dont get annoyed or anything I just say "haha, gutted to them, they're probably jealous of me!". It helps because 1) It shows confidence 2) makes a joke of the people whos eyeing her up and makes you feel better and 3) makes her feel better if you subtley compliment her (like I did, said they'd be jealous of me, saying that the other guys would be jealous I had a beautiful girlfriend) etc.Give it a shot, it worked for me, got nervous at the start of the relationship, now I take it like a joke
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reader, ladybug  +, writes (24 September 2007):
 hey...!! it only means that your girlfriend is really attractive! and that's really nice! I just dont get you boys, when we try to look good for you, you will react in a way that we are not appreciated, and if we dont fix ourselves, as if you wanna hide us in your closet forever.. ok, lets put it this way, (1.) , tell your girlfriend about it in a REALLY NICE way, just try not to offend her, show her that you trust her, because too much jealousy over this simple things is not healthy for your relationship, the more you show love and acceptance to her, the more she will agree to your wants.(2.) accept the fact that she's attractive and treat this as a compliment, which will you prefer? a " head turner" or a " head thrower" (3.) instead of worrying about this issue try to do some stuff that will really impress her.
If you think that this wont work, try to buy a shirt that says " she's hot and she's mine!"...
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reader, Uncle Trev +, writes (23 September 2007):
If she is an attractive girl that chooses to wear revealing or tight clothing it is only natural that people are going to look at her. She may well enjoy the attention it creates.If you are mature enough to get involved in a relationship with this girl then may I suggest that you also become mature enough to handle onlookers. Anybody has a right to look at anybody else - you do not own her and by giving the impression that you do will be one of the quickest ways to find yourself dumped.
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reader, leanne.od +, writes (23 September 2007):
 you can't do anything, you can't control what she wears but it's a compliment that guys look her, she's with you, would you prefer people think she was ugly?
it's ok to be jealous but just remember it's you she is with and nobody else gets her as much as they'd like too.
a dress fitting? seriously? chill out!
best of luck
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (23 September 2007):
 Hey sweetness,
Okay, so you're a little jealous. I suppose that's reasonable... you can be jealous. But you have to remember that YOU'RE the one she's interested in, YOU'RE the one she's coming home to every night - there's no need to get worried. Just be proud that all the other guys wish they could have what you do. Every time someone glances at your girl, think to yourself "you wish, buddy". See, now? Isn't that satisfying?
You wouldn't want her controlling what you wear, so please don't do it to her. It's just not fair. Try to just trust your girlfriend to not go frolicking off with any guy who gives her attention. If your relationship is solid and love is there, you won't need to worry because you can trust her unconditionally.
Good luck, sweetness!
xxIndia
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reader, justice_10 +, writes (23 September 2007):
sorry but you dont own her sweetie and plus you need to know that if you continue this sort of behavior your girlfriend could leave you and find somebody else who wont treat her this way and plus honey you sound jealouse and insecure and if she loves you , you have nothing to worry about so stop getting upset.
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reader, Dr. John +, writes (23 September 2007):
 I would not worry so much about others looking at her as much as remembering that YOU are the one who has her. Be proud of that. The only thing I can think of that would be a problem is if you are insecure on your part. Obviously she has the desire to be with you or she would already have left you.
As long as there have been no problems from others like people trying to take her away from you, I wouldn't worry about it. Doc.
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reader, PrestonA90 +, writes (23 September 2007):
Hey I feel the same way about my gf I just eventually got used to it, it's only a big deal if the guys stares at her for a long time or approaches her. Then thats where you come in and say "hey whats going on"? Your gf wont be interested in these other guys anyhow so there should really be no worries. And just try to stay out of those stores or go into the dressing room with her if you want to. Well I hope this helps:-)
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reader, broken babe +, writes (23 September 2007):
 your a guy of course this happens you want to protect her right so by that you dont want other guys getting ideas and you dont want anyone else to touch her my only advice is look at it this way they may look at her but they arent allowed to touch her or hold her or anything of that sort your allowed to look at her whenever you want
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reader, jm81690  +, writes (23 September 2007):
 I can see where you're coming from, when I go with a girl it drives me nuts when I see a guy checking her out.But its kind of hard to tell your gf not to wear such short skirts, it'll sound like you're saying she dresses like a whore. Atleast she might interpret it that way.If you tell her you don't like people looking at her, you might come off as being obsessive. So I've never actually told any girl I've been with to show less skin, or let on that I didn't like other guys looking at them.If you see a guy checking out your gf, give him a dirty look to show him whats up, that'd be my advice.Good luck.
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