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writes:I don't like it when my boyfriend looks at other girls in public, I find it humiliating. If I initiate sex or give him a blow job before we go out, is there less chance that he will look at other girls because he's just had an orgasm? Or would it be the same?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2007): As a male, I'll tell you that I am almost never turned on when I look at girls other than my girlfriend. It's more out of curiosity. I just study their bodies and determine whether or not I think they're attractive. Nothing's wrong with that.
And I'm sure you notice other guys. This kind of thing is never one-way.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (23 October 2007):
 What would you consider to be more degrading, being reduced to a position of "having" to give him a blow job so he doesn't glance at other women or just letting him have the occasional glance? It is probably more insulting that you'd resort to putting his penis in your mouth as a defense for this. He'd win both ways...getting head and he'd still glance at others. Instead of lowering yourself, just accept the fact we notice people of the opposite sex...respectfully.
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (23 October 2007):
 A man will look. It is what he does *LOL* It doesn't mean they are wanting someone else. When all is said and done he goes home with you. If he is respectful,he will look but not touch. He will be tactful as to the way he acts toward the other women.
His affection is for you and he is in control of the attention he gives to someone elses beauty. It is a natural instint for most men. Be positive and confident that it is you he wants and don't feel threatened by his admiration of beauty in his surroundings.
By the way do you ever notice handsome men? I surely do! Most women will. I certainly don't want someone else no matter how attractive when I am in a relationship because my main focus in on the man I adore!
Relax and if you put pressure on him to change he might perceive it as jealousy and trying to control him. Men will fight this with their last breath!
Good luck and Godspeed.
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reader, Jamer70  +, writes (23 October 2007):
 Martini said it all again.
It would be nice if the people we were with looked at us and only us. Maybe with the look we had when we were 16 and in "love" but truely its a pipe dream.
Men and Women will always have a wondering eye but doesnt mean they will run off. Though that wasnt your problem.
Tell him to not do it when your around as saying him not to do it wont happen im afraid to say.
It may be humiliating but it happen.
Plus giving him a blow job every time wont help and is kinda imppossible. Though i doubt he wont say no to trying it.
Then if you want cut his peice off.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2007): Just cuz he looks at them does not mean that he is thinking about having sex with them. When someone walks into your field of view its impossible not to look. As long as he isn't eye-fucking them or drooling, I wouldn't worry. Try stop yourself from looking at hot guys and see how hard it is... give him a break.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2007): Put a blindfold on him. Maybe possibly even cut off his schlong and inject some estrogen into his body.
Seriously though, to answer your questions first, whatever you do for him sexually will most likely not stop him from looking at other women. What's missing in your question is how is he looking at other women. Is he glancing at them or is he undressing them with his eyes?
It's a nice ideal world if all men and all women would put 100% of their focus on their partner, but idealism only really happens for those who can suppress their innate human desires and mechanics. It's quite natural to check out other women and other men. Like I said, it's how he does it. Plus are you going to give him a blowjob EVERY time you two go out? I would think that can get quite tedious and tiring.
What you should do is have a talk with him (blindfolding him would be a secondary choice). Make your point across and see what he says.
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