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writes:Hey everyone, I am 15, gay and proud to be. I am "out" to my friends but not my parents. I am nervous to tell them. Not because I think they will react badly. It is because I just don't know how to phrase it. When I came out to my friends I put it bluntly I just said "I'm gay" and that's how I did it, but that's not how I want to come out to my parents if you know what I mean. So can someone please give me an idea on how to say to my parents I am gay but in a less forward and blunt way.Any help is appreciated.Thanks!! Reply to this Question
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (13 October 2008):
 I like HonningKanin's approach. Tell them that you'd like to talk over dinner - you're cooking. Make them a delicious dinner, and over dinner or dessert tell them gently. I'm sure that part of them already knows... parents are intuitive like that.
Org, you could spell out "I'm Gay" with carrot sticks on their dinner plates.
Just kidding. Good luck, my sweet. I know however you tell them will be just fine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2008): just say there really is no easy way to put this im gay
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2008): They have probably already guessed. Find a internet site that gives you tips on coming out, get a print out. Leave it laying about the house. If they mention it, explain it's for you.
If they don't, notice if it's been moved, read, give it a couple of days, then bring up the subject yourself.
Good luck
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (13 October 2008):
 Or you could say something like, "Mom, Dad, I was at the Doctor's today, and he said I have an inoperative massive brain tumor and have only weeks to live." After they take a big huge intake of breath, you say, "Just kidding, however I AM gay." Kinda puts things in perspective for them.
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reader, HonningKanin  +, writes (13 October 2008):
 If I were you I would get their attention and have them sit down with you to talk to them. Tell them you have somethng very serious to tell them.
"Mom, Dad. I know that you love me and will always love me. I know you guys will always accept me for who I am. This is why I know when I tell you this you will still be here for me. Mom, Dad I am attracted to men. This is who I am. I am gay."
Ease it in very very gently. Talk to them about how you felt and how you feel. They should be fine about it and i they aren they will just get used to it.
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