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writes:I have written on here previously about my issues with my ex boyfriend. but this weekend it has all come to a head....I had to text him on friday (6th august~) about work related issues. Then from nowhere he tells starts texting me about what hes doing and that hes bored. so i just said oh dear cya.then he keeps texting how hes masurbating and thinking about me. do i think about us having sex? etc etc. He carries on these texts till 1am in the morning and I tell him that its a compliment i turn him on so much but could he please stop as i was tired.so the saturday i dont hear from him.then on the sunday i get the messages again."How long ago was it we last had sex together?""It was ages ago""think about you all the time""You must want it"etc etc.to which I said "Right! Do you want to meet up tonight and talk all this through over a drink or something?"He says " No, might upset you or something and give you the wrong idea"So I said "Ok then. Dont text me like you have been ever again. If you dont want me leave me alone and let me heal and move on.Although it will talk me a long time. You dont know what you want x"Then I had "I do know what i want thank you. i'm old enough and mature enough to know what i want,and i want to be alone with know ties"I just said "goodbye"Hopefully i can move on now. but the sad thing is its him who peeps and looks out for me all the time. Him whos constantly asking me "Do u have anyone else?"which i ahve told him no on many an occasion.Wants to know if i think of him, if i miss him.I cant be messed about like this anymore can i?It is hard to excape him though as he drives past everyday and is always in the places i go to.Please can someone give me their opinion on what he is playing at?thank you. I am hurting deeply inside! xx
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reader, jackie69 +, writes (10 August 2008):
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He is definitely obsessed with me to tell me hes touching haimself and naked and crap, which i realy dont need to know.
It isnt nice hearing tha type of thing when u are no longer with a person cus u hope that they dont think of u in that way, especially as he dumped me! that is what i dont get!
I wish he would disappear for a while for me to take control of my feelings and heal like i said.
i am moving out of my parents house soon and i'm scared that he will think he can call in on me cus i will be alone. It is quite scary if he thinks of me in that pervy way to be alone with hiom now.
I am still in love with him, but as the days go on this slowly fades more. as i am more worried about his mental health now than anything! xx
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reader, bluntasaspoon +, writes (10 August 2008):
 good lord!!!! stalker alert!! if i were u i would get in contact with the police and ask someone in non uniform to visit u preferably a womman. show herthe txts, tell her how u feel( like if ur scared to leave the house etc etc).
i had a similar problem with an ex and it got soo bad that he ended up on my doorstep fromm 11 in the morning till about 5 am. i had to phone the police in the end coz he would not leave me alone. it is really hard to do but u must ignore all efforts he makes to contact u. if possibe go stay at a mates for a bit or ur mums
u need to sort this out luv bluntasaspoon x
ps im me if u want to talk more
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reader, love reigns! +, writes (10 August 2008):
 Hi Hun,
I think you know what to do deep down Like you said you need to heal. If he texts don't respond...it sound harsh, but desperate times - desperate measures. It sounds like he only wants you physically..How dare him!You have an emotional side that needs attention. Don't even try to ask for his heklp in this...He is being disrespectiful and trying to 'flatter' you in doing so. Probably because it's worked in the past. The truth is he does not love or even like YOU. Ignore him completely...once you start you'll see how easy and even more flattering that he can't have you is. The up side is at least you have the chance to show off subtly in front of him when he sees you. Don't een look in his direction when you're in the same scene, believe me He will notice. Make out that you are having lots of fun...and anyway you should be doing this, choose a guy that dotes over you flirt with another guy in front non sexually though in front of him so he gets the messsge.
good luck!
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