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writes:I don't know why I'm writing this maybe because I just need to let it out. I have been only a few real relationships in my life and have found that I don't feel like I can be loved. I won't be someones love because there is something deeply wrong with me to anyone. Either I try too hard or I just have a trait that is undesirable. If I'm not perfect I'm not enough sometimes. I often consider a life of celibacy just to get away from it all. No more worries about their life and problems. No more getting used for what I can do because I care. No more getting cheated on and told it doesn't matter. I guess I was wondering if this should be something to really look into. I mean as it is relationships are a pain in my life and just working and sleeping would be so much easier. I mean really it would just make my entire life alot simpler. What do you think? Should I look into it as a choice or seek some professional help? I'm not even saddened or mad as I write this. I am just extremely tired. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2011): Hi
You are just tired and fed up....life is or should be a challenge, it pushes us to new places..physical and emotional etc!!!!! Too little too soon, to throw the towel in, life and love should be a great adventure (including the lows). Retreat is good for a small period of time when tired....but only to bounce back recharged and a little wiser, not to fall asleep to the colour of life because it is the easy option.
good luck and smile:)
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reader, ReturningtheFavor +, writes (20 March 2011):
I wouldnt worry so much about this, you just havent found the right person yet. be comfortable and confident in who you are and that will help. we all have traits that people will like or dislike but you if you are happy with who you are that is all that matters. relationships will come and go, but you are stuck with yourself forever, focus on making yourself happy! Good luck to you!
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reader, Miss Misunderstood +, writes (20 March 2011):
 One of my close guy friends is going through the same sort of deal so just know that you are not alone, and I'll just tell you the same thing I told him. :)
You are young, and you have much more of your life ahead of you. You will find your true love one of these days. Don't worry yourself too much about it. What I have done the times I was single is just live life as it comes you know? Do things you enjoy, and don't worry about finding love, and simply let it find you. It is much more exciting that way, because it comes when you very least expect it.. and it will be such a pleasant surprise to you when it arrives. :)
Also when speaking to a person of whom you really feel a true connection with, just be yourself, show them that you care, and always keep the promises you make to them. Over time, you will find that one special person that will love you for who you truly are, despite whatever flaws you may have. In love, such small things do not matter. They will be overlooked. :) You have no reason to worry my friend. You seem to be a very wonderful guy. Just be patient. It will all be worth it in the end. ^_^
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reader, lilysunshine  +, writes (20 March 2011):
heyy.. i dont know, if what you are going through is just a phase or you truly are living with it.
all i can say is everyone at some point is too "hard" or has a "trait that is undesirable". that is what true love doesn't see. it is where the undesirable traits and the hard behaviour is overlooked and things you are amazing at is taken into consideration.
why blame yourself for not finding the right one? maybe you just aint lucky yet. you are still in your early twenties and you should focus more on things like career and friends.
love will run its course! just give it time!
all the best!
i am sure you will do great! good luck..!!
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