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30-35,
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writes:I have a problem and I need help. I'm 14 and my sister is 15, and we are very close. But I am so jelous of her. Okay, most of the guys I like end up liking her. Every girl and guy in my grade tries to be friends with her, they act like I don't even exist. Guys in my grade are obsessed with her. She is so much prettier than me... it really upsets me only because all of the attention is based on her.I have people in my grade talk about how cool or pretty my sister is... and they think they are bestfriends with her when it is like they do not even know her sister (me) is in their grade.. you know?I'm tired of being the one left in the shadow.She is prettier, skinnier, has SO many friends, and everything.The only thing about me is that I am a straight A student, she is more of a D student but I don't care for this. I am so lonely as well, and she has more friends in my grade than I do, and they worship her. They suck up to her all of the time and I can't stand it. I want to be noticed but no one cares for me they just see me as the girl sitting in the corner that is "pretty" but shy. I wish people in my grade would just leave her alone because it gets me furious. She has so many people who care for her... if she looks the slightest bit upset people go, "OMG WHAT'S WRONG?? ARE YOU OKAY??" But if they see me crying for example they just don't care. I hate being the sibling who no one notices. People always make comments on how pretty and great she is and never me. This has caused me to hate so many people. I want to overcome this, someone please help? Any advice?
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (11 October 2007):
Pretty people always get the advantages. Everything comes easier to them. In the end they turn out to be the saddest people because all the attention they get is superficial. Boys just want them for their body. Employers think they will do a better job (usually not the case) they end up getting fired from the better job because they cannot do it. You should concentrate on having good, honest, decent friends even if the number is smarter. Look for boys who are smart, honest and hard working. Watch the movie "Revenge of the Nerds."
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reader, XxAngelDust89xX +, writes (11 October 2007):
 If you hate being the one in the shadows, step out of them. You said you are shy, and I'm guessing your sister isn't, so try being more outgoing. Talk to people, let them know you are just as cool and special as your sister, more so because you watch your grades. Sulking about how popular and pretty and blah blah blah your sister is isn't going to make you any more popular.
Let your light shine, it will draw people to you like moths to a flame. (Just don't burn anyone ;P )
P.S. Physical appearance means NOTHING.
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