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*xsexygirlxx
writes:Hey the thing is, im 16 and ive been kissin n doin everyfink else wif this guy i know now for bout 6 months n wen wer together we get on really well but i know hes a player and when hes not with me he messes me about(not txtin bk n things) but im now at the stage i jst wanna have sex (i havent yet)cos i feel ready and i dont care bout the fact that hes not the right guy! is this wrong? its just im really comfortable aaround him and when were doin other seual stuff i dont feel embarassed ur uncomfortable n even though hes a bit of an idiot after it i fink hed be the best guy 2 do it with cos im nt lookin 4 a serious relationship right now but wanna have sex! help plzz!
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reader, xxsexygirlxx +, writes (17 March 2007):
xxsexygirlxx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey guyz! just wanted 2 thank youz 4 all the advice n am nt gonna do it! met him last nyte n a realised what a total dick he was n was messin me bout so ive basically told him 2 get lost! :D uz wer ryt in first place i wuld hav regretted it thanks x Waitin 4 the ryt guy now! :D x
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2007): OMG! don't do it. I know you really want to now, but you will totally regret it. It's important for it to be the right guy, and just cuz you wanna do it, doesn't mean it's the right thing or it will make you feel good. Seriously. Take my adivice. When I was 16, I'm 19 now, I did the same thing as you. I was dating a guy, and all my other friends were doing it, and I really want to. My boyfriend was sweet, but REALLY not the right guy. I did it with him, and it really messed up all my other relationships. DON't DO It!!!!!!!!!!!!
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reader, xxsexygirlxx +, writes (12 March 2007):
xxsexygirlxx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey thanks for your help every1 n in answer to (childof1981) im not in line of thinking that i want a relationship with this guy cos i dont but im jus really comfotable with him and he is with me. but thanks 4 ur help ive still nt made up of mind. and in answer to aunty t sayin i have no self respect, trust me i do if i had no self respect i would have did it with him by now i have had plenty of opportunities but i have valued nyself enough to say no n now i feel the time is right to say yes but i value your comments becuase i know just as uz have said i will be rewarding his player lifestyle. but thanks ill keep youz posted x
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reader, Auntie Amber :) +, writes (10 March 2007):
 look hunni...i lost my virginity just like that....and GOD do i regret it...i wish i hadnt have done it .... because we dont even talk now he got what he wanted .... trust me babe he is a player just stringing u on...wait untill u are in a relationship! it will be much nicer 4 the pair of you...and also its not unusaral either that u want sex ur 16 and ur hormones are rageing!! take it easy take care and write back if u need more help!!xx auntie amber xx
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reader, aunty t  +, writes (10 March 2007):
 You are showing very little respect for yourself and your body. When you have sex for the first time it should be with someone you really like. Why are you in such a hurry? Find someone who will respect you and be there for you afterwards and dont waste your time on this loser.
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reader, childof1981  +, writes (10 March 2007):
 I am going to disagree with my fellow aunts on this one. You are old enough to make a reasonable decision about what you want to do. There is nothing inherently good or bad about having sex, it's like any other choice in life and carries it's own set of rewards and consequences. I will always advise against making a decision without evaluating the costs/benefits, but if you have that covered and want to do it then do it. I would caution you in not thinking that this kind of sex will lead to a relationship, but if you just want to have some fun you will be fine.
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reader, Dr. John +, writes (10 March 2007):
 If you do it you will regret it for the rest of your life. Your virginity is something that you can only give away once. I have spoken with many women and girls that regret not having waited for marriage to give up their virginity. On the other hand I have spoken with others that have and are waiting for marriage, my 22 year old daughter included. They are proud of themselves and with good reason because high moral standards are not plentiful nowadays. Yes, in my opinion and the opinion of others it is wrong and I emplore you to give up this idea. You are still young so go be a kid while you still can. There is still plenty of time for all that other stuff later. Doc.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2007): Dont do it! Simple as that. You will regret it and you know it so just be patient and wait for the right person. Dont reward his player lifestyle.
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