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writes: I'm a 20/f and i have been with mu bf for 2yrs. He cheated on me early on in our relationship and i didnt find out until 6 months later. We have moved in together and soon we overcame it but he seems to go in the internet alot and ends up with phone numbers on his phone that are stored under guys names. He told me he did it so i would find them so he could see if i was checking up on him still, which i dont believe, but want 2. Recently he has started a new job, and he has been texting a girl from his work and being flirtaious, but her responses where that she was not interested but he persisted to ask her to meet him. When i confronted him, he told me that she basically stalks his friend at work who has a gf and a child 2gether, because he said she has made lots of trouble between his friend and his gf, he is trying to make her like him and eventually get her to go out with all of their work colleagues for a night out and humiliate her infront of everyone by saying they all dislike her and that she should have a taste of her own medicine.My bf told me everyone knows about the plan (i have never seen that side of my bf to be so cold hearted towards someone) I have certain moments when i trust him and when things happen like this i just cant cope. I am so miserable. i love him so much and never have been so happy and miserable at the same time.I think that he wants to have someone to come home to and also do as he pleases. During the confrontation about this girl at his work, he told me that he was going to propose to me while we were on a surprise holiday he was arranging (i knew we was going away but i didnt know where) can you please help me, am i being a fool? As they say love is blind. He seems to win me over everytime,i am just hurting so much, when will i come to the point where enough is enough? I just feel like a doormat and it is me that is suffering and getting ill over this distrust. He makes it out as if i make him feel like a prisoner in his own home, but how can u really ever trust someone who u love the most and u thought they loved u 2, is it possible? please help? x
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reader, pica +, writes (8 September 2006):
He's a player and a loser .. dump him. The story about the planned humiliation of the alleged stalker girl is pretty nasty even though it's very likely not real. Shows a real nasty side of him though that he thinks it's a suitable defence.
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reader, theskycastle +, writes (7 September 2006):
 I understand you really love him. But can you see yourself living with someone who you cannot trust, and who you're already having second thoughts about? If you still want to pursue a relationship with him, I advise you to be more independent. You should have your group of friends and should not be the one who waits for him to come home every night. Sometimes when he sees you've capable of leaving, he will actually appreciate you more. And hopefully he will stop his non-sense with flirting. I wish you good luck.
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