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writes:I don't know who to talk to about this, because it just sounds so silly...but I constantly feel ugly and fat.It's gotten to the point where I will stare at myself in the mirror and cry, and then compare myself to everyone who is skinny.I've been looking on 'thinspiration' websites alot lately aswell...and I'm really worried i'll develope a real problem, without even realising.I just don't know how to feel positive about myself. I think it's the fact that i'm still single and no one likes me like that, whereas all of my friends seem to have dozens of guys willing to be with them and things.Can anyone help me realise that it's all in my head? Reply to this Question
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reader, xray2112  +, writes (2 August 2008):
You need to realise how special you are. There never has been or ever will be anyone just like you.
Don't worry about the friends and all the guys they always seem to have. One day someone is going to love everything about you and he's going to tell you the thing he loves most about you is that you are YOU.
Push all those negative thoughts out ok? Afterall, it's hard to be humble when you're so great right?
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reader, BigSis +, writes (1 August 2008):
 Darlin' the last thing you want to be doing is looking on sites like that. They're not healthy at all. What you can do is read through this 'Article' thread, just click on the following link; http://www.dearcupid.org/question/genetically-modified-woman-or-organic-female-which-do.htmlRead it well, and you'll see some things in there, especially the starting post by The Wiz, I can almost guarantee that you will start to feel better about yourself. You need to hold yourself up and lift your spirits high, lose all thought of you being ugly and fat. Love yourself first and things will soon start to fall into place. It'll make all the difference. Give it a try hon, lives are too short to be spent miserable and depressed.BigSisxXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2008): Hi
Forget those thoughts of wanting to be skinny and not having a boyfriend. Guys swarming around your mates may make you feel a bit left out etc, but don't worry.
Why don't you start getting a different inspiration other than the skinny bit...this is not what makes you attractive. Train to do something unusual take a new hobbies up start getting involved in other activities. This will make you start to feel good about yourself and your achievements. You are unique as we all are, no matter what size you are.....and i am a skinny size 8, it does not define who i am. Fitness is good for the right reasons health and not just to be skinny and i have had many a man say nasty comments about my weight, so do not think the grass is greener over here. Train to be fit and healthy not skinny and frail. Eating and getting full nutrition is vital to a healthy lifestyle and can prevent many diseases in later life .Please do not develop a big problem with yourself, do everything different, train to be a dancer, a musician, Martial arts, a pilot, a car racer, a nurse, anything positive, you will reap rewards and feel content with who you are. Please do not cry when you look in the mirror, make the best of everything you have, and smile when you look. A tip!next time in the mirror, nice feminine underwear find a style that suits your shape and makes you feel good. Look after your skin, treat yourself to some new make up,or even go for a makeover to find what is best for you (some are free in the right place)hairstyle, nice perfume, a special dress and heels, and then smile and forget the rest it can be history if you want it to be. I will be wishing and hoping you choose the positive.
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reader, x..BabyGirl..x +, writes (1 August 2008):
 Sadly, I think this may be the starting point of anorexia. Do you skip meals or eat and then force yourself to vomit it all up? If you do, you need to go and see a doctor immediately. Most internet providers offer parental controls which parents can block you from viewing certain websites. Maybe you could block all of the 'thinspiration' sites that you use so that you can't use them any more. Stop looking in full length mirrors and only look in head mirrors to apply make up or cream that you may be using such as moisturiser. I doubt you're ugly. You just might be more appealing to the shy kind of guys, who don't want to be forward about liking you whereas your friends may be more appealing to different types of guys. Don't look at people you consider to be inspirational such as anorexic 'models' they will only make you feel worse, trying to look like them will cause you serious harm, we're all different. If you were meant to be unhealthily skinny, you would have been born so. Please talk to your mum or a doctor. You could cause yourself serious harm if you keep doing this. Good luck x
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