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writes:WHY DO I ALWAYS DO THIS :(!!.... I have been flirting with this boy i know for a while, and he thinks i really like him, which i do. hes sweet and kind....but its not him i really i want. really im falling for a girl from work (who is so straight). Shes all i want. Why do i do this... i need to distance myself from this boy...but how.... i know that sounds silly but i like the attention ;)lol
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reader, PsyCookie  +, writes (3 August 2008):
 Awww, well, I'm sure this happened for your own good. At least you know when to back off and not try to persue something that will never happen.
The good thing is that many hot girls are bisexual for some reason.
Good luck in a future relationship!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOhhhh sorry lol. i got to wrapped up in making sure i told you i wasnt one of those bisexual "i'll date two people" people lol :)
I did let this guy no that at the moment i dont want a realtionship or anything, just some fun...but i think we're just seeing where it goes.
The girl, i think im just going to have to get over:(...shes not intrested as she keeps going on about this guy she likes!!
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (3 August 2008):
I'm so glad! Like I said it before, that seriously ticks me off. Those kind of people put a bad name on (us) good bisexuals!
But you haven't told us if you followed any of the advises and what has happened to you lately. At least I would like to be kept updated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOh god no. im a one person person, whether or not its male or female. if im with someone its just them!!!
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (2 August 2008):
That's great! But did our suggestions help you in any way? I hope they did. Please update us!
Now, I just hope you're not like other bisexuals I know that think that being bi means they can be in a relationship with two people at the same time (which makes me mad since I am bi too). I mean, that's just called cheating.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI just thought id point out, im very comfortable with my sexuality!, im bisexual.
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reader, ClaireAndJamieXX +, writes (2 August 2008):
 Its normal for teens to do this. Flirting can be a way of showing your interest in someone or just for fun. You never know he might think he is the one playfully flirting with you when he also has another love interest in mind. But be careful not to lead him on to the point of hurt. Its just nice to be paid attention to just make it clear to this guy that its just some casual flirting and nothing serious and have fun with it. Things will sort out and if not for the best this time perhaps next time. Everything happens for a reason. good luck =] xx
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (1 August 2008):
I agree. You have to evaluate yourself and see what your preferences are. Don't worry if you don't do it in a day or a week. This process of finding and knowing yourself will probably take a while, so don't try to rush it.
It's perfectly ok if you like both genders, as long as you don't cheat one for the other (if you get in a relationship). But you say that you like a girl who is straight, so your hopes are very deem with her. If you're really comfortable with her, try flirting with her and see her response. I warn you, only do this if you two are comfortable with each other because she will be most likely be creeped out if you romantically persue her.
And you could keep on flirting with a guy as long as you want. I mean, there's nothing bad on wanting his attention, but just let him be aware that you want nothing more than casual flirting with him. As in, don't kiss him or do stuff that will give him false hopes for a future relationship, just keep it clean and casual.
If you want to distance from the guy, just stop flirting with him. It's that easy. Start talking to him like you talk with anyone else. Eventually, he'll get the hints and he'll stop seeking you. And you could try to talk with this girl. Like I said before, don't flirt with her unless you are comfortable with her. Some girls don't even know they're lesbians! But I remind you again, if you go further and she is indeed straight, she will probably be creeped out and uncomfortable with you.
Good luck!
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reader, krys +, writes (1 August 2008):
I am a young women who has been in this similar situation and it is normal. what you need to do is figure out who you are and what you really want. It is very possible to be attracted to both male&females, so just take some time and figure out what is going to make you the happiest.
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