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writes:it's killing meIve seen this new girl in my univercity and I really like her.I asked her to be my girl friend.she said no at firt but eventually we spoke a nice deal,she said that we can friends .Unfortunatly things gor so bad and she kept saying no the word that I cant' take.my friends told me that I was too direct and fast and my be stupite .I wonder what to do to get her back even for friendship. .please help me .thankyou. Reply to this Question
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reader, Blonde68  +, writes (24 February 2011):
Unfortunately you are going to have to learn to accept the word no.... you are pushing her further away and she won't have any respect or time for you.
People always want what they can't have and this is wanting is happening to you right now.
Please step back and respect her wishes and with time she may want to be friends with you again.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (24 February 2011):
 In addition to what dirtball said, you can't insist on getting upset everytime someone say "no". It's a word you don't like to hear, but you can not prohibit the use of it. You need to learn to accept that when people say no they mean no, but that it isn't an insult towards you, or something you should let bother you this much.
If you want to be able to get along with others you can't refuse others the right to use certain words. Im not sure if that's how it is with you, but when you say you "can't take" that word it sounds as if you don't tolerate the use of it. But you have to come to terms with it being used! You have to learn to be cool with it.
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (24 February 2011):
 You can't be friends with her if you keep asking her out. It shows no respect for her wishes. It's not bad to be direct, but you need to learn how to deal with rejection. Persistance can be good, but it can really hurt you too.
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