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writes:Dear ones,I can't take it anymore, this situation, I can't stop crying my heart out.I know everyone have problems I agree, and most of them maybe are most difficult than mine, but I truly can't take it anymore.I have boyfriend 3 years I love him but I love someone else too and that is killing me. I don't want to be a bad person, I just want to be happy but with every turn I made, I do mistakes and mistakes.I am lead from my heart not my mind, but what can I do? That is my damn luck. And I am feeling that nobody understand my feelings. I am in pain, I can't escape, I am battling my own nightmares.I know I've reached my breaking point. All I hear are my own words, my own visions of hell.
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reader, lotsofgiggles123  +, writes (23 May 2008):
 well i think bout the boy prob is to compare and contrast about them like there qualities then i think that might help but the visions of hell you should probably see a therapist or talk to someone and bout the mistake thing learn from you mistakes in the future and i used to have a the prob with the visions of hell so i went toa therapist it helped me out a lot hope dis help :-)
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reader, a_decent_1  +, writes (23 May 2008):
 The Problem here is that you don't really know what Love is.... !!! At your age LOVE is an entirely different term than what it would be when you're 20.
Coming to your point, read my words when i say "YOU CANNOT LOVE TWO PEOPLE AT ONE TIME" .. That's just not possible.. You were wrong at the VERY POINT where you started having feelings for the other guy even after having a BF.
If i were to be ur BF, I'd dump you for the ugliest girl in Town to let you know how it feels when you cheat..
Don't take my post in an offensive manner, try and learn what i am trying to say... !!
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (22 May 2008):
 Hi, Lonely B, I'm so sorry to hear that you're so unhappy. We all go through difficult times, I think sadly that it's part of growing up and dealing with the world.
I think my best advice to you is to take a few steps back from both of these love interests. Yes, that means just take a break from seeing either of them for a little while. Maybe a month or so? You can tell them each individually that you are confused in your feelings and that you need some time on your own to think.
Then use that time to think about what you want, and also use the time to stay busy, go out with your girlfriends, spend time with your family, help people who are in need, get some exercise by walking, eat healthy food, spend time in the fresh air and observe nature around you.
Keep a journal where you write down what you did everyday and how you were feeling. And write more poetry and write down your dreams and hopes and wishes for the future.
For example, you could write a title, "Where I want to be in one year" and then write down everything you can think of, and do one for five years, and ten years.
Page one could start with, "I will be feeling better because I have done these things to help myself," then list the things that could help.
Just some ideas to help you through this.
I think you should talk with your mother, your sister, your friends or a person at school maybe, and tell them that you are so unhappy. They might be able to give you some good support too, okay?
All the best, and don't stop writing your beautiful poetry, and listen to the people here who are trying to help you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2008): My goodness, you are very aticulate and emotionally intelligent for a 16 year old!
I applaud the great advice that "WastedLife" offered you and agree 100%. Just remember that you should follow your heart and you will survive this, even though it seems impossible to imagine right now.
I am sending you big hugs. I suggest you consider becoming a poet. You are a very passionate young lady!
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reader, WastedLife +, writes (22 May 2008):
You are very romantic, and that's wonderful. Let's see if you can add your head to your heart. Ask yourself, would you rather tell them both you are in love with two guys? If so, you might lose one or both, but it would be honest. Do you fear losing one more than the other? Then ask yourself if you really love him, or do you need him? Follow your feelings, and if you want to be with just one guy, you will have to do the hard work of telling the other.
The hard part here is courage. Courage to break one heart or two, and possibly your own as well. You know the current situation is untenable, and all choices are hard. Do your best, and whatever happens, let go of guilt and blame - they are useless and not real emotions.
The coward dies a thousand deaths, yet the brave die only once. Feel your fear and find your feelings, and make this very difficult and adult choice. Whatever you decide, you will be wiser for it. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2008): Hi,
I'm sorry your feeling so bad, sending out big hugs and lots of kisses.
Your not bad, you've done nothing wrong, your just in love with two guys. That's called greedy, not wicked. (LOL, over very bad joke) Anyhow I've never been in this situation. What do you think your heart is telling you to do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2008): oh hun...u are so young...please,please do not torment yourself like this!Its normal to feel you are in love with 2 people and in most cases i do think that its possible...My advice to you is take a deep breath and make a list about what you love about your current bf and this other person...
What u have to understand is that feelings change and what you feel now at such a young age when u get older u feel differently about things.I was in a simialr situation when i was younger.Whatever decision u make will not be the end of the world-i promise u!
Good luck
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reader, Jules22  +, writes (22 May 2008):
 i don't know your boyfriend so i don't know how he would react but if you love him and he loves you, try explaining your feeling to him. if he see's that you are really upset then i am sur he would listen.
Another piece of maby unhelpful advice is try going to sleep. i know it is a catchfraise and i know it is anoying but DO feel better in the morning.
hope i helped
keep me posted
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