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writes:Hi everyone, really need some help here. My and my girlfriend just got into an argument about trusting each other (I told her I didn't trust her fully because I have trust issue, I told her I had been cheated on- which wasn't true) and I think we are pretty much over, I really want to still be with her because I love her, but the problem is the thing I said to start the argument wasn't true. I can't just tell her I lied can I, or do I just leave it and hope she doesn't leave me? Reply to this Question
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reader, Flightfrk02  +, writes (28 November 2011):
Man up and tell her the truth, coming from experience, she will condone you for coming thru with the truth, if she really cares about you. Maybe you have a trust issue for another reason, tell her why, that's the only reason she will even begin to understand
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reader, littlest.devil +, writes (28 November 2011):
 If you can't be open and honest in a relationship then what's the point of having one? Love is built off acceptance and openess..You should never lie to the people you love. If there's no trust there's no relationship. Since you broke it you'll have to earn it back. Even if it upsets her that you lied people appreciate it a lot more when you own up to what you did then hiding it. Aunt honesty makes good points.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (28 November 2011):
 You have trust issues with your girlfriend but yet you lied to her??? Talk about a double standard!!!
What was the argument about? Has she ever given you a reason not to trust her?
Confess your lies and hope that she TRUSTS YOU. You get what you give. So if you want the truth and trust then don't tell lies.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (28 November 2011):
 Why did you feel the need to lie to her in the first place. You have trust issues that you need to sort out before you lose her for good. You need to come clean to her and promise her that you are going to work hard on getting the help that you need. Explain to her why you lied. I think you should go to counselling over your issues with trust or else they are never going to get fixed, lying to her about being cheated on is just really not fair and should never be used as an excuse for your behaviour. It is obvious you know that you find it difficult to trust her. Therefore if you feel that she is trustworthy and worth the effort then go and get the help that you need.
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