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writes: i cant seem to stop cheating on my boyfriends. I done it once and it caused so much hurt i vowed never to do it again but its like i just cant say no! please help me. i've already lost the lad i love and so i really need help Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2006): You are not alone. I have been through the same thing. I am even starting to believe that i am a compulsive cheater. I can't help it. No matter how happy and satisfied i am in a realtionship, i cheat. The only guy i loved and never cheated on left me because he thought he couldn't deal with the competition. This happend almost 6b months ago and till this day I am looking for a replacement. Maybe we cheat cause we are looking for soemthing deeper, some connection that we didn't find yet. Hang in there. We will find a way out soon.
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reader, ogga +, writes (17 September 2006):
okay i have no sympathy for you, i just had the girl i love kiss her best friends crush and im so gutted, its your fault, howcan you say you love someone if you constantly wan to be or do get with other people? its crap? re-assess your life. sorry im in a bad mood as ive just found out about this happeneing to me but ffs
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2006): There are usually two things happening with a person, who cheats. Firstly, if a person is very young, impressionable and confused..they simply are not ready to settle down to just one love relationship.. Judging from your posting, I think this is you. So with that said, I don't think you know what true love is because if you did, you couldn't possibly cheat like this on some you deeply love, hun. But don't be so hard on yourself..just try to understand that you may 'still need to sow your wild oats'. Maybe you just need to experience life to the fullest and have some time for self-discovery, so to speak. If I were you, I would refrain from getting involved in committed, love relationships until you mature and really know what you want. Play the field but please use common sense and stay safe. Secondly, there is a more darker, painful reason why some people cheat. The other possibility is: some people are compulsive cheaters. Cheating is like a fix to them..they are emotionally broken. If this is the case, then cheating is 'not' the problem There is a much deeper issue that could be possibly going on..some type of emotional pain. Compulsive cheaters are people, who could have been hurt, possibly abused in some way and always trying to find attentions and new experiences is a way for them to cope, to numb pain. Quite often, people like this do need counseling to help them.
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reader, gracie lou +, writes (17 September 2006):
 so you say you lose all your bfs because of the actions you take? usually people ask about problems with their bf's actions. this is your problem. if you want to keep a serious and committed relationship, you're gonna have to have a serious and committed outlook on it. seriously, have some self control. if you cant keep your hands to yourself when you come in contact with other men, then you're gonna have to think ahead. don't put yourself in situations where you're likely to cheat on your bf. don't go to parties and things without your bf. if you vowed never to do it again, you should have set up some rules and regulations for yourself in order to achieve your goal. you gotta make some sacrifices, girl. goodluck
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reader, Abacadaba  +, writes (17 September 2006):
 no offence, but dont be so easy, learn to say no, this is nothing advice can help you with, its all to do with self control. Unless its happening when your drunk, then the solution is, dont get drunk.
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