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writes:Ok so this is an explicit topic but I need advice on something, that's obviously why I am here. I am worried that I am loosing my sexual stamina. I am a 21 year old female and I have never had an orgasm by a mans penis. the only way I can orgasm is being deeply penetrated/fisted for 15-30 minutes but I don't squirt. I want to squirt and I feel like the orgasm should feel more powerful. I want to learn how to cum without having a fist inside me. maybe I don't know how to relax or something I always tense up. is this weird? what can I do?
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reader, Tenderlovingcare  +, writes (20 May 2013):
 I've been with my partner a year and have never once had an orgasm from just having sex. You need to ether get him to ether use a vibrator or his hand to stimulate you at the same time. It really upset my partner at first because he had obviously watched porn and just assumed all women orgasm from just the penis being inside them, so I explained to him that it's easier for a man because when they masturbate it's basically the same thing that happens as when they put it inside a woman. If that makes sense. You have nothing to worry about x
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2013): I think you've been watching too many porn movies because you have a very skewed view of a women's real orgasm. You will be happy to know that there is nothing wrong with you. Most women are unable to orgasm through intercourse. That's just for show more often then it's something that really happens. It's like a man saying cum with me...sure, that's not so easy to do lol. Now, of course some women can, and sometimes a position change can make that happen. Trying different postitions and things is how you can find out. Most women can have intense orgasms with oral stimulation if their partner is good at it.As far as this squirting thing....sorry, I know some claim they are "squirters", but I think it's a bunch of bologna. Anyway, again, if you are hoping for a porn peeing contest which is all it is in those videos, well have fun with that. To each his own.
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (20 May 2013):
 Have you had your clit stimulated during sex while you are having normal intercourse?
I am a squirter, but I didn't know that until my bf I have now, that i've been with for four years, and I slept together the first time. It gives me way more intense orgasms and they last longer too. So I don't know what person1234 is talking about and I've only slept with three people, my current bf included.
Have you talked to your gyno about this? Perhaps a nerve problem.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2013): I have not orgasmed with intercourse, this is very common. try masturbating and a vibrator instead, your vagina should not be stretched so much. I don't really like intercourse at all, prefer oral.
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reader, shrodingerscat +, writes (20 May 2013):
 I'm sorry but I completely disagree with Person12345. Squirting isn't "just a party trick" and some women find that female ejaculation means better, stronger orgasms. Some women find that the only good orgasms they have are when they squirt. That certainly isn't the norm, but denigrating it as nearly useless isn't helpful in this situation at all, nor is it even factual.
I would say...don't try and fix what isn't broken. You can orgasm, so enjoy it and be happy. Unless it causes major stress in your life/relationship(s), there's nothing wrong with the way you come.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (20 May 2013):
 The vast majority of women can't orgasm from intercourse alone/a penis. Only around 20-25% can, and that's not even every time. That shouldn't be your goal because you're setting yourself up to fail. Also squirting is really more of a party trick than anything else. It isn't a better or stronger orgasm, it's just leakage. Certainly not necessary to have a good orgasm.
If you want to learn to have orgasms without being fisted you need to start masturbating to learn your own body. Most women like clitoral stimulation, you'll just have to play around to see what you like. Try getting an external vibrator maybe, or a massaging showerhead.
Many women need to keep tension in their PC muscles to orgasm, many need to relax, again you'll just need to try a few different things to see what works for you. There is no right way to have an orgasm.
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