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writes:hi,im really upset because i cant get a boyfriend and every one else can what can i do?p;ease write back a.s.a.p thank you xxxxxxxxxxx Reply to this Question
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reader, Nico +, writes (8 February 2007):
 Hi,
You really are very young to worry about finding a boyfriend, it's very early and you are still growing! You might see your mates with boyfriends or people your own age with them but it doesn't mean its normal. If anything it's not normal as you should be going out with your friends and enjoying being young before you have to do your exams etc...Stop worrying, theres plenty of time for a love life later on.
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx +, writes (8 February 2007):
 Don't worry about this, you're way too young to be thinking about having a boyfriend. I know you and all your mates are starting to notice the guys but it's silly going out with one of them now: they're immature and stupid and only cause you trouble!
Whatever anyone says on here, I know you're going to continue to want a boyfriend so all I can say is don't be desperate. Guys hate that. Be yourself and hopefully you'll find someone you like, not just get someone for the sake of having a boyfriend.
I know it's difficult when you think all your friends are doing something and you're not but I promise, this is not what you want to get into so young. You need to stop worrying about what everyone else is doing: what are you going to be like in a few years when they all start having sex and taking drugs? Are you going to copy them then?
Please spend some time with yourself, getting to know who you are and what you really want. Good luck and don't worry.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (8 February 2007):
 What should you do??? You are only 10-12 years old and shouldn't even be THINKING of boys at this age! You should be concentrating on your studies and finding out more about yourself and what you want to be when you grow up.
There will be PLENTY of time for boys in a few years from now. :o)
Eve
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reader, here_2_help +, writes (8 February 2007):
 I understand how hard it can be when all your friends have boyfriends and you don't. I've been there! Part of it is beyond your control but there is something you can do about part of it.
Girls and guys your age randomly hook up and unhook on a weekly basis. You see someone you think is cute. He thinks you're hot. BINGO, instant boyfriend/girlfriend. Maybe those are the kinds of boyfriends "all" your friends have. And maybe you're just saying you want a guy to think you're hot and ask you out. Nothing wrong with wanting that. But you can't make that happen. Either it's going to happen this year or it won't. There's no timetable for what's "normal".
You control how you feel about who you are, as a person. That self-image comes from how much you value your intelligence, your kindness, your sense of humor, your skills, your talents, your ability to be a good friend, etc.You're the only one who can control what you think about who you are. And if you truly believe that you're a good person who has lots to offer, then others will see you that way too. If you constantly put yourself down and believe that you don't measure up to others, then others will also believe that you don't measure up.
So, bottom line, your problem isn't how to get a boyfriend, it's how to love yourself.
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