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writes:hello,can any one help me because i can't stand this situation any more.i am a young and very beautiful and successful girl. i look like 20 yr while i am 33 and this is causing a great difficulties to me because till now i can't find some one of my age to marry every time the one who make proposal is much younger than me for about 8-14 yr.i don't believe in marriage without love and till now i didn't go out for a date and i am still virgin because i belive that having sex without marriage is sin.you may laugh at this but it is my beiefe and our culture's belief also.my problem is that some of those that i do belief that they loved me couldn't speak about their love and they went away while those that i do not want come and make their proposal.is it because i am older or because i have a strong personality.what should i do to make the one that i feel that he loves me to break this silence and express his love instead of using just his boddy language before he decide to go away. Reply to this Question
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reader, shane in dallas  +, writes (11 October 2009):
 The fact you're a virgin is irrelevant. Your issue is finding a good guy. Time to change the guys you're around. If you want a better relationship, then you have to find a better kind of guy. You will find bad guys anywhere, but your chances will be better if you're around a better class of people. And people your own age. You sound ready to move on from the 20 year old kind of lifestyle, so go to the 30 year old kind of lifestyle. Take that 40 dollars you would've spent at the dance club and go to a different kind of event (museum parties, openings, social clubs -- there are all kinds of social events going on all over). Don't be afraid to talk to men. At your ages, most of the childish behaviors are resolved and people can just chat and talk and get to know each other. Soon your social circle will grow with grown ups and you'll meet all kinds of men with possibilities.
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reader, natasia  +, writes (11 October 2009):
 Do you have a man in mind? Is there someone you love? Or are you still waiting?
And ... what is wrong with younger men? They have quite a lot of advantages ...
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (11 October 2009):
I won't laugh. It's brilliant that you've kept to your beliefs. You're successful and still young, so give yourself time. Some men can feel a bit threatened by successful women, so really take your time to get to know men, and maybe do hobbies where men your age will be. Take your time and you'll find him.
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