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writes:Now that i am aware of my fiancee cheating on me at least once in the past I keep getting paranoid that she is still being unfaithful. Since i called her out on cheating on me (around 3.5 months ago) sex and anything of the nature has been almost completely out of the question. She gets mad when i even touch her for more than a hug.I have my days where it's not a problem at all and then there's days I can't get it out of my head and it makes me question everything (how many times it really happened, and if it's still going on) mostly I am so worried about it because I have gotten 3 different stories between my fiancee, her best friend, and the guy she cheated with.When I get to thinking about it I go through everything of hers (cell phone, myspace, email, etc.)I know it's an invasion of privacy but does me knowing whether or not this girl is worth spending the rest of my life with count? I can't talk to her about it because whenever I bring it up she gets very irritated and yells at me for not trusting her.Maybe we just need to spend a while apart from each other? But the more I think about that option the more I worry that she will cheat again. I'm losing my mind, I can't sleep, eat, or have a good day anymore.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (2 November 2009):
I'm afraid I agree with the other posts. This hasn't got a chance by the sound of it. You're not even married and she's cheated and there's now nothing but paranoia. Really consider whether you would be better off ending it with her and moving on.
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reader, lola29  +, writes (2 November 2009):
go for it.
take some time, rethink your feelings towards her, the fact that there is sucha big wall between you two, just doesnt make sense why you would continue.
you haven't been appreciated by ur fiance at all, especially after forgiving her of the cheating in the past.
well think about it. and imsure by the end of all that you'll realise you dont need this and can do better, maybe with her and maybe not. don't lose hope.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2009): Dude I feel for you but time for some possibly harsh words.
1. The trust is gone and with it the basis for any intimacy.
2. You suspect already that she may not be the one you want to be with but your possibly afraid of being on your own.
3. This girl has lied once and will in all likelihood do it again.
4. the lack of any intimacy is very worrying it indicates that the feelings may be gone.
All in all I think you need to trust yourself and trust that you deserve better and then go after it, best of luck finding it . I would not wonder about her anymore she is not worth it
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