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writes:HiThis might sound really weird.my boyfriend and i have been sleeping together for 10 months now, and what weird about it, is he only wants to have sex doggy style,( i enjoy it too) but ive tried to get him to try different positions but he's not really putting an effort and automatically just flips me over and pounds me. if he does try something else, its just the missionary position, and while he's doing it in that position all he always has his mouth over mine, snogging me, until we both come.i find this weird, has anyone of you experienced this, can anyone make me understand whats going on. Reply to this Question
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reader, lilyth +, writes (3 November 2009):
 you are very welcome and thank you for reading my posted question. from some of the other posts it looks like some others agree with me.I think that their questions and suggestions are good as well, I do think that you should ask yourself if you are having sex too much.If he is going down on you, then it is obviously not that he is exually selfish.it does sound like he is a wild man when it comes to the sex.I know you have tried the blind fold, but have you tried the tying him up?have you tried to put your foot down, metaphorically speaking, in the bed room when he is just trying to flip you over and do you doggy style? Like I said, when he does this, DO NOT SUBMIT. stop having sex and tell him that you will not continue unless he does the position that you want to do.You have to make sure that you stand up for your self and not take that crap.Have you spoken to him about it and how it makes you feel?remember to do it not only honestly, but also kindly as men are amazing a lot more emotionaly sensitive about sex than we might think.have you tried my method above about stoping the act when he does start to do it doggy style?How long have the two of you been together?do you naturally take a more submissive role in the bedroom?how are things outside of the bedroom? is he attentive? does he do what he wants most of the time? does he respect you and your thoughts and feelings?when you ask him to do something,( like for example, go to the store for something) does he say that he will do it and then does not?because if he does any of these things, does not show you respect in the relationship or care about what you think or is sensitive to your needs then that is a sign of a bigger problem and it would be no wonder why you are having issues in the bedroom.I will be able to give you more insight to your problem once these questions are answered.thank you for taking the time and good luck sexy buttrflyLilyth
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reader, SexyButtrfly  +, writes (3 November 2009):
Lilyth
Thanx for your reply, i have tried the blind fold but eventually he jus goes back to doggy style.
the only time i get to see his face is when he is licking me . . .
any other suggestions? anything u want me to answer you so can help u give me more ideas?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2009): Both of those positions provide the most friction for a man. Take control and tell him you want to do this position. If you yourself don't know any others and are waiting for him to come up with some, maybe you could try purchasing a book on sex. There are many different ones that are illustrated and they sell them of all places at bookstores like Barnes and Noble.
Buy one and work your way through the book, I am sure he wouldn't complain.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2009): Men are wired huh, lol.
We obsess to much with our orgasm im afraid so he always wants the position which will do the job.
Do you have alot of time for sex? If yes there is something you can try if your feeling adventurous.
Buy some handcuffs and maybe a thick scarf to blindfold him. Tie him up and then play with him and get him to do it with you. You can use the blindfold at the same time or by itself, but I promise you it will be different.
ps if you are cuffed then have a safety word so he can take them off if your uncomfortable.
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reader, lilyth +, writes (2 November 2009):
hummm...sound like he just needs to slow down a little bit and enjoy the moment, and it sounds like that is what you are wanting.the fact that you do enjoy the sex and you both come is fantastic, most couples don't get to enjoy that.it sounds like he just likes to get wild and crazy and pound the hell out you.alot of men love to do it doggy style because it appeals to a very primitive side of their minds. they love the vew as well, although with being on the receiving end it doesn't offer us much of a veiw. we are either lookng at the bed sheets, the wall or whatever is straight ahead. It also sond like he likes very much to be in control when you have sex, which isn't always a bad thing unless you would like to be in control somtimes too. perhaps he has trouble with that and has never really had a woman take charge.I don't have too much to go on and if you could give me some more info on the subject I might be able to help you more with it. i can say a few things however.If you have tried to talk to him and he is not responding or really trying then you need to stop trying to beat it into his skull that way. the only beating that is going on is your head against abrick wall, or the bed post in a nother matter. lol.if you have been able to get him into a differnet postion as you say, and he then reverts back to the doggy style or missinary, then stop making love to him, disconnect the loins and say that you will not continue unless he gets back in that position. take charge and be be commanding, but be sexy and erotic about it, don't barrate him! this power struggle in the bed room can very steemy if done correctly and with respect. if he does not comply and is then trying to maniplate you by trying to make you feel guilty, then he is only being sexually selfish.another thing you could try is to tie him up on the bed and perhaps blindfold him. then be very kinky and pleasure the both of you in slow ,sanguine movements, tease and make him crazy with desire. a lot of men weither they admit it or not go absolutly bonkers for this.make him submit and realise that there can much more to sex than just pounding and snogging. the great part is that you are completly in control. unless he starts to thrust which can be very exciting. don't be mean about it, if he wants to be untied or becomes nervous or frightened untie him emediatly and be affectionate, but not sexy untill you both can be again. if you do not have bed posts to tie his hands and feet up too, you can wrap something long anough around under the matress, to literlly kind of tie him around it.he has to be restrained were he cannot get out but,don't make the constrainst hurt, don't make them too tight or uncomfortable.this isn't torture.my man and I do this from time to time, we both love the fact that with the restains and the blind fold we are forced to focuse on the feeling and the pleasure and it drives us crazy that we cannot touch the other person. what I like to do is to take his blind fold off half way thrue so that he can look but not touch, this drives him wild because men are such visually driven creatures.I hope this helps. keep me posted
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