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writes:I can't seem to get over my boyfriend's sexual history. We recently moved in together and are expecting our first child. We plan on getting married. My boyfriend is 5 years older than I am, so he obviously has more sexual experiences than I do. Besides him I have only had consentual sex with one other person, it was awful and I regret it. He, on the other hand, has been in four other serious relationships and has had sex with all of his ex girlfriends. I feel like I can't relate to him on this topic because his experience was so much different than mine. I realized I could not seem to get past my curiosity about his past, as well as the pain and jealousy that are paired with it. So, I started to ask him questions to try to understand what it was like for him. All he says is he loves me and sex is so much better with me, that his ex's meant nothing, he wasn't attracted to them ect ect.. But I can't help but consider all of that bull shit because obviously he was emotionally involved with them so sex with them did mean something, and obviously he was attracted enough to them to be intimate.I need advice on how to get him to tell the truth, as well as how I should deal with the fact he has a sexual past and just move past it. SOS!
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reader, Gridrebel +, writes (15 January 2010):
 Just because you haven't had as many sexual and intimate relationships as him doesn't give you more reason to doubt him. If he had had only one previous intimate relationship would that make you feel better? Maybe the others were just sexual relationships and not mommy or wife material. You need to let the past go and quit trying to get him to "fess up" about his past GF's. The past is the past so build on what you have now.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (15 January 2010):
He's already telling you the truth. If he loved one of his ex's more, he'd still be with one of them wouldn't he!? :). He loves you, because you are YOU there is no one else like you. He didn't like his ex's as much, or he would still be with one.
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